I told a guy who’s a mutual friend in confidence that I’m happy being single and I only went on other dates to get over being in love with his mate, one of the guys I used to be friends with. Mutual friend guy mentioned that he was seeing the other guys, the next day. A few days later, the guy I loved sent me a kissy face close up selfie, I got a post from him about love and he posted on mutual friend’s Facebook post under an alias with my surname, but his own picture. Obviously him. Publicly. For everyone we both know to see it. How likely is it that mutual friend told him what I’d said to him in confidence?
How likely is it that word spread to these guys I used to be friend with?
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It is difficult for me to accept the idea that real men gossip. But maybe your guy friend isn't a real man.
Some do, in small communities.
It sounds rather like he knows, doesn’t it?
Too many single mothers raising boys as I see it. They adopt some of their worst behaviors but with an even more damaging dose of testosterone.
Probably right. What was he trying to do? Let me know he knew, or tease me publicly, to the rest of the community?
I have no idea. Maybe he just can't keep secrets very well as the best case scenario, but that's still not a friend with whom you want to share deeply.
I mean, why did the guy I used to like let me know he knew?
Like, making a fake profile with my surname and his photo, the love post and the kissy face close up photo?
I never found much utility in asking such questions where we can't be sure of the answer even when we get one. It's easier to ask what you should do now in response.
Ok then. What should I do now?
Should I just not react at all and wait for it to go away?
You might be able to find a way participate but balances out all your goals.
My goals? How so?
You have to consider all of them and try to decide the best course of action that optimizes the probability of getting the outcome you desire.
I just want it to be forgotten and for this guy to go away. He pursued me for a year and a half and I knew he wasn’t good for me, so I told him to leave me alone.
Always have the option to tell him that in the worst-case scenario!
True.
Highly
What does he want? Was he letting me know that word got back to him and teasing me?
Could be either
What’s most likely? I don’t pick up on social cues very well.
Impossible to know could be teasing I would guess that
To be nasty?
Guaranteed
Why did he want me to know that word got back to him? Was he teasing me?