Why does he get so distracted?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I were on good terms. Lately I feel like no matter what I say to him he doesn't hear anything. He will literally say what I just said and act suprised like I didn't just say the same thing. Not sure if he potentially has adhd or maybe just a narcissistic type. We were in the middle of a phone call and he get distracted and starts having a side conversation with a coworker. I got angry and hung up on him. Why is he never present anymore for our conversations? Any advice is recommended. Even sexually his hygiene is gross. The man will take a piss and put his wet dick back in his. boxers. should I break up? Or can this be fixed?

[idrilcarnesir19]

Honestly if he does have adhd he might not know it by the looks of it. Try to approach this both ways whether he might have or not just incase. Try to see if you can talk to him and see how he process the situation. If he does have adhd, you’ll see that they are hyper, not all but some. If it’s the other kind of adhd which is his attention span, that would most likely be the reason for being easily distracted. I personally don’t know how everyone with adhd acts but this is base on my boyfriend because he had adhd. Sometimes you’ll find them lazy and not doing what you ask them to do because their mind is thinking about so many things and none at the same time. It’s hard for them to finish certain task especially if it doesn’t interest them. Most have to find a suitable routine for it to work, but also a routine where they won’t get bored. Honestly, if he does have adhd it takes a while to break old habits, you gotta have patience for that. It took time for me and my boyfriend and it’s a good thing I have a lot of patience, eventually I started to see he is making an effort, he talks about what’s going on in his head and sometimes it is overwhelming to even imagine being in his shoes. There needs to be some sort of understanding between the both of you to make things work. However in the end if he doesn’t have adhd, just try to figure out whether or not he still loves you or not, but just don’t base it off of his answer but also his actions. No matter what, this will still take time but make sure to be observant to see if he is making an effort. If not then maybe you should start thinking about other options?

[Anonymous]

Asking if you should break up with him is a big decision that no one else can make besides you. But if what we say will influence your decision, I’d say to talk to him about it first and foremost. If you love the guy and still want the relationship to work then it’s worth giving him an opportunity do better, as he may not even realize how his actions are affecting you.
But if you’ve already done the whole conversation thing and he’s still acting the same, that’s when you’ve got some bigger decisions to make. Part of being in a relationship is the willingness to compromise where you can and to be receptive of your partner. So if he basically ignores your complaints then he’s either not interested in changes or just doesn’t see the issue altogether. In which case it’s may be best to move on.

[Fireguy17]

Sounds like he is a bit too complacent in the relationship.
The way I was brought up that just isn't polite behavior.
As far as the coworker call if it was important he should have told you I have to take care of this and I will call you back.
As far as him putting a pee soaked trouser trout away, that is just wrong.
Not saying you are having sex or oral sex with him, none of my business, but that would be a deal breaker.
Just keep that thing away from me.
Talk to him about how all of that and how it makes you feel, and if that behavior pattern continues then it is time to find someone who will treat you in the manner that you should be treated.

[hahahmm]

You're not married. This relationship is almost certainly doomed to fail if neither of you think it's worth taking it to the next level. So you are spinning your wheels. Point is, that you are not obligated to stay with him.

That said, guys aren't known for washing their junk every time they use the bathroom. Even if some do keep more clean than others. You shouldn't assume it has anything to do with you. You could have asked him to take a shower & communicated you have OCD about his wet willy.