Background: I had a crush on this guy, at first I thought he was interested but he had confusing behaviors so I told myself he was just playing me/leading me on and I moved on. Now, months later, I was told by one of his best friends that he actually liked me.
The weird behaviors:
he would write to me that he wanted to go on dates, but than he would bail last minute with poor excuses or just not respond anymore once I replied I would have liked to go on a date. He did this several times until I stopped responding.
he initially reserved me “extra” treatment, being super kind and gallant even to the point of taking my chair back to help me sit at the table like a medieval gentleman. After I told him I found it annoying that he always ghosted me after asking me out, he stopped doing that but he would still act a bit weird around me
he tried to match me on dating apps a thousand times although we saw each other regularly in real life. I kept seeing his likes
he sometimes would find excuses for physical contact. like awkwardly putting his hand on my arm while talking to me about random stuff
The few times I tried to address the fact I was annoyed by his behavior (meaning asking me on dates and than not showing up) he suhsed me saying he didn’t want friends to know “what was going on between us” (note: nothing was going on between us…)
he is potentially an anxious guy and although he acts as an extrovert, he never showed his true self. There might be background issues. But I had come to the conclusion he didn’t like me and now I’m confused
