Would you be able to accept your partner will always have feelings and attraction towards your own sister?

[Sareuh90]

So my partner knew my sister before me and evidently had a crush on her they were friends but it never became anything more. He then met me through my cousin and showed a lot of interest I had known about the friendship with my sister but he told me he wasn’t in to her like that any more and he found me more attractive physically mentally etc. well for years I had this off feeling that he still wanted her he denied it for years but then a couple years ago asked me to get a strand of her hair out of her brush at my moms so he could unbind hisself from her with a spell because he still had feelings for her and felt her energy that he will always have love for her. He said as of late that he doesn’t have feelings for her but there will always be the what if and that her gothic style is what he’s really into… I’m like the polar opposite for the most part though my style is diverse. How would you guys feel?

[MementoMori777]

i feel like you are most likely missing the most important thing here, considering your partner talks about spells, he sounds like he's into dark magic and if he simply would use it with your sister, you better let it sink in that he's most likely using it on you too, if you aren't spirirually protected, you can be effected by it, that of course includes love spells and such, but I don't know how it works or but if he did the spell, he probably doesn't but I don't know, hard to tell.

[Wise4myage]

I can see how that would bother you, but unless you suspected them to be cheating, then why not just let it go?

[Sareuh90]

Well it does bother me that’s for certain and there was a point after we had children together and things weren’t going well because he was going through addiction that they kissed when they were both messed up on stuff. And they were hanging out behind my back

[Sareuh90]

And also how she’s the style he’s into when he made me believe I was his dream woman.. now years later he’s telling me her gothic style and look is what he likes it hurts
Me

[Wise4myage]

Yikes, that is not cool. Is he clean now?

[Wise4myage]

He doesn't seem real bright.

[Sareuh90]

He’s clean now it was a struggle for some years.

[Sareuh90]

I just kind of feel like he got with me because he could not have her

[Sareuh90]

It makes me uncomfortable when I’m around them both and I feel him wanting her I know I’m not crazy either..

[Wise4myage]

I understand, but you have no proof of them cheating, right?

[Wise4myage]

I'm following you. :)

[Sareuh90]

No they aren’t they kissed when they were both messed up and he used to message her all the time sending her songs telling her she’s sexy etc. That came to a halt.

[Wise4myage]

Well that's good.

[Agape93]

I don't care. Long ad they aren't cheating or hurting anyone, love who you want.

[Sareuh90]

I respect your opinion can I ask you something though. If you know they would love to cheat on you with said person you’d be ok with that as long as they don’t actually cheat? Even if they think of the person sexually or while you are having sex with with them

[Agape93]

Correct. I don't police their thoughts or desires. They're wholly entitled to it. My red line is action.

[Sareuh90]

I love that ! That’s awesome. I always wish to be like that but I don’t know how to stop my thoughts

[Agape93]

Not everyone can. Too many people are jealous and possessive

[sheikalana]

I don't have a sister but no i would not tolerate that.

[Tstrbrainer]

It's understandable if you feel pissed

[Bigjake1995]

I’m sorry but he sounds weird