I was dating a man who is 33. I’m 25. I think I have maturing to do but it blows my mind that he would still have to “learn” things that even I at 25 feel I already know such as treating people with compassion, being sensitive to your partners needs and being willing to grow. It made me think that if he isn’t mature by now he won’t ever be. I left him and some part of me in the back of my mind hoped he would see that he was losing me and could be willing to change. But then I thought that he is at an age where he possibly knows that what he is doing isn’t beneficial to the relationship and simply does not care or doesn’t see anything wrong with it. I’m not asking if I should have hope I’m genuinely asking if it’s possible or how likely is it that a man his age would “grow up”. At this point he is past the developmental stage so he’s just operating from what he knows. Of course we’re always growing and adapting, we are a species that constantly evolves but in my case I worry that he is not even capable of maturing
How likely is it that a 30 year old/middle aged man who isn’t mature will never mature?
