long story short, he wasn’t putting much effort into our “relationship”. It was really a situationship. I was telling him how I was feeling, he didn’t do much about it and honestly was treating me differently than the beginning. He seen me a month later at a party and wanted to talk, but I was intoxicated so I don’t remember much about it. I do remember he was telling me we just didn’t work out and stuff like that. I didn’t get why he had to tell me that again, when we already said that. I don’t remember much of what I said though. He told me to text him when I made it home but I didn’t I just remembered I texted him that night saying that, if he wanted to make it work he wouldve but thanks for the talk. I instead texted his close friend that we were with that night that I was drunk and he offered to help me get home and I let him know I made it back. The next day I apologized for the text and tried to talk to him but he refuses to talk to me. I kept trying and trying so hard but I gave up. I didn’t know what I did so wrong. I don’t know if It was something I did or said or was it the text. I just wanted to talk to him sober bc he tried to talk to me about it while I was drunk. He said he doesn’t feel comfortable talking to me right now and wanted space. I told him I respected what I don’t know if what I did was wrong
He asked for space instead of talking after this, why?
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It sounds like a few factors likely contributed to this person distancing himself and asking for space:
1. The "relationship" was unclear and uneven from the start, with him not putting much effort in. This created an unstable foundation.
2. When you expressed your feelings, he didn't make much of an effort to address them or change. This shows a lack of care and investment on his part.
3. The intoxicated conversation at the party likely didn't go well and further reinforced that you two weren't on the same page.
4. The text you sent him afterwards, while honest, came across as definitive that you were moving on. This probably confirmed for him that the situationship had run its course.
5. When you tried talking to him again sober, he refused and distanced himself further. This suggests he had already checked out emotionally.
6. When he finally asked for space, it was likely because he saw no path forward and needed a clean break.
In summary, multiple factors - the uneven dynamics from the start, his lack of effort, the intoxicated conversation and your text signaling the end - likely contributed to him deciding the best thing was space to move on. While you didn't do anything "wrong," it became clear to him that your feelings and priorities weren't aligning.
Asking for space was his way of closing that chapter while minimizing potential hurt or prolonging things unnecessarily. So while disappointing, it was likely the clearest path forward for him at that point.
The best thing now is to respect his need for space, learn from this experience, and move on by focusing your energy on people who are truly invested in being with you from the start. I hope this provides some helpful clarity and perspective. Let me know if you have any other questions.
It sounds like a few factors likely contributed to this person distancing himself and asking for space:
1. The "relationship" was unclear and uneven from the start, with him not putting much effort in. This created an unstable foundation.
2. When you expressed your feelings, he didn't make much of an effort to address them or change. This shows a lack of care and investment on his part.
3. The intoxicated conversation at the party likely didn't go well and further reinforced that you two weren't on the same page.
4. The text you sent him afterwards, while honest, came across as definitive that you were moving on. This probably confirmed for him that the situationship had run its course.
5. When you tried talking to him again sober, he refused and distanced himself further. This suggests he had already checked out emotionally.
6. When he finally asked for space, it was likely because he saw no path forward and needed a clean break.
In summary, multiple factors - the uneven dynamics from the start, his lack of effort, the intoxicated conversation and your text signaling the end - likely contributed to him deciding the best thing was space to move on. While you didn't do anything "wrong," it became clear to him that your feelings and priorities weren't aligning.
Asking for space was his way of closing that chapter while minimizing potential hurt or prolonging things unnecessarily. So while disappointing, it was likely the clearest path forward for him at that point.
The best thing now is to respect his need for space, learn from this experience, and move on by focusing your energy on people who are truly invested in being with you from the start. I hope this provides some helpful clarity and perspective. Let me know if you have any other questions.
It sounds like a few factors likely contributed to this person distancing himself and asking for space:
1. The "relationship" was unclear and uneven from the start, with him not putting much effort in. This created an unstable foundation.
2. When you expressed your feelings, he didn't make much of an effort to address them or change. This shows a lack of care and investment on his part.
3. The intoxicated conversation at the party likely didn't go well and further reinforced that you two weren't on the same page.
4. The text you sent him afterwards, while honest, came across as definitive that you were moving on. This probably confirmed for him that the situationship had run its course.
5. When you tried talking to him again sober, he refused and distanced himself further. This suggests he had already checked out emotionally.
6. When he finally asked for space, it was likely because he saw no path forward and needed a clean break.
In summary, multiple factors - the uneven dynamics from the start, his lack of effort, the intoxicated conversation and your text signaling the end - likely contributed to him deciding the best thing was space to move on. While you didn't do anything "wrong," it became clear to him that your feelings and priorities weren't aligning.
Asking for space was his way of closing that chapter while minimizing potential hurt or prolonging things unnecessarily. So while disappointing, it was likely the clearest path forward for him at that point.
The best thing now is to respect his need for space, learn from this experience, and move on by focusing your energy on people who are truly invested in being with you from the start. I hope this provides some helpful clarity and perspective. Let me know if you have any other questions.
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It sounds like a few factors likely contributed to this person distancing himself and asking for space:
1. The "relationship" was unclear and uneven from the start, with him not putting much effort in. This created an unstable foundation.
2. When you expressed your feelings, he didn't make much of an effort to address them or change. This shows a lack of care and investment on his part.
3. The intoxicated conversation at the party likely didn't go well and further reinforced that you two weren't on the same page.
4. The text you sent him afterwards, while honest, came across as definitive that you were moving on. This probably confirmed for him that the situationship had run its course.
5. When you tried talking to him again sober, he refused and distanced himself further. This suggests he had already checked out emotionally.
6. When he finally asked for space, it was likely because he saw no path forward and needed a clean break.
In summary, multiple factors - the uneven dynamics from the start, his lack of effort, the intoxicated conversation and your text signaling the end - likely contributed to him deciding the best thing was space to move on. While you didn't do anything "wrong," it became clear to him that your feelings and priorities weren't aligning.
Asking for space was his way of closing that chapter while minimizing potential hurt or prolonging things unnecessarily. So while disappointing, it was likely the clearest path forward for him at that point.
The best thing now is to respect his need for space, learn from this experience, and move on by focusing your energy on people who are truly invested in being with you from the start. I hope this provides some helpful clarity and perspective. Let me know if you have any other questions.
Thank you for this. I just hope he can talk to me and apologize too and we can have a conversation and leave on a good note and maybe be friends
That would be ideal, but I think you'll have to be patient and let him come to you in his own time, if he wants to. Pushing for that conversation now likely won't go well. Here are my recommendations:
1. Stop contacting him for now. Give him the space he asked for.
2. Focus on moving on. Even if you do talk in the future, assume the "relationship" part is over for now.
3. If/when he does reach out to talk, stay calm and keep an open mind. Don't expect an apology right away. Just listen to his perspective.
4. Focus the conversation on understanding each other, not blame. Ask open-ended questions. Share your feelings honestly but gently.
5. See if being friends in the future feels right for both of you, once emotions have cooled down more. Don't force it.
6. If he doesn't reach out, accept that as his choice and try to move on. You can't control his actions, only your own.
The most important thing is to respect his need for space right now. Give him time and the possibility of a calm, mature conversation in the future may open up. But pushing the issue risks pushing him away further.