I have a married coworker who is known for his extramarital affairs at work. He was supposed to train me but went out of his way to ignore me and sometimes even physically hide from me when he saw me from afar. Other coworkers noticed it and pointed it out so its not just in my head.
From the very beginning he was very disinterested, cold and formal with me which is very unusual for him since he is very sociable, charming and talkative with everyone else including new staff and strangers.
He encouraged me to approach him for all sorts of work related questions but in the rare cases I do he seems closed off, distracted and short. Why would he act like this if he is even known for being a bit too close with his female coworkers? I'm not fat nor am I ugly and I approached him very rarely so there is no good reason for him to be annoyed with me (I think).
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Sounds like something about your vibe is off to him. Or maybe he just wants to avoid having his coworkers think he's trying to have an affair with you or whatever.
Or maybe he just doesn't actually have a ton of affairs, and is sick of people thinking he does.
Could be a lot of things. I know that a big part of why I avoid one-on-one interaction with the women I work with is precisely because I get tired of the women and my other coworkers reading into things. I don't like my work to touch other parts of my life, so being aloof and distant is how I keep my work at work.
He brags about his affair with another coworker so he obviously doenst care
Ah. Well, something about you is obviously making him feel uncomfortable... not sure what it could be without knowing you as a person, but sometimes people are just weird that way
Are you seeking an affair with him? Not sure why it should matter so much to you. Lot's of married women in the workplace are disinterested, cold and formal with me but I'm okay with it. You two seem like you can work with each other in a professional manner, why bother with the extra attention.
Just want to know if I’m repulsive
You can settle that quick in the "how do I look" category if it's truly important. Otherwise you could just look like a family member, an Ex or his Wife and he's hung up on that. At least you're not in the rumor mill at work. Which is always good.
The other women have warned him about you.
About what exactly? Other women at work don't know me
They don't have to know you to talk about you
@spartan55 And why would they warn him about me?
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Who knows? Maybe they did, maybe they didn't. You it's possible the guy just doesn't care for you.