Why would a guy show major interest but not ask you out?

[strawberriez]

[TheSpaceGnome]

Well for me its because even if I like her enough to marry her, I'll propose eventually (assuming she doesn't beat me to it). but I'll never ask her out on a date.

I don't go on dates, going on dates is a shitty way to get to know a person. Better to be best friends and hang out doing fun stuff instead when screening a person for being relationship worthy.

[Kingship]

Its because he is a p*ssy.

He is not leading you to a date, then he might just be playing with your feelings, or being a 'super nice guy'

They tend to show interest to a lady, yet if she rejects him, he flips out, acts like a little b*tch.

So, this is most likely a high schooler who has yet to develop his cojones

Certain cultures make the guy *shy* but no excuses.

Find a guy that leads, not staying passive like a female. Good luck miss.

[strawberriez]

lol! interesting… thank you

[Kingship]

I say the other answers below, many doubt-filled. Let me know if you want to shoot again.

[AndLikeThatHesGone]

Maybe he thinks you'll reject him.

Maybe he thinks you have a boyfriend.

Maybe he thinks you're hot, but would make a lousy girlfriend.

Maybe he already has a girlfriend.

Maybe he already has a wife.

Maybe he's in the witness protection program, and he doesn't want to put you in danger, in case the mob finds out where he's hiding.

Maybe he's a werewolf, and he's waiting until after the next full moon to ask you out.

Maybe he inherited a billion dollars, but he only gets to keep it if he can avoid falling in love for ten years.

Maybe he has really weird genitalia, and he's trying to figure out if you'd be okay with it.

Maybe he's someone you met years ago, who got lots of cosmetic surgery so you don't recognize him, and this is all part of some elaborate plan to get revenge.

Or, maybe he's a hallucination, and your friends are all wondering why you spend so much time talking to empty space.

Could be lots of things.

[Finchie40]

He might be unsure about how you feel about him , or he might of just been friendly with you and you are taken it the wrong way , the only real way to know is for you to show interest in him as well

[strawberriez]

True.. hmm

[Finchie40]

That’s what makes Guy’s and girls’ different , A girl can talk to a guy just being friendly and he might assume she is flirting with him , the same goes for a guy talking to a girl , he is just being friendly and she automatically assumes he is flirting with her. It happens a lot. Through my experiences with girls’ learning to read body language has worked best for me , the only way I learned body language , other then making eye contact with someone , was by having girl friends’ that told me when a girl was actually interested in me , I would deny it , and say no she isn’t , she is just being friendly with me and they would say look how she giggles when she comes near you and look how she plays with her hair when she comes close to you , little did I realize my girl friends were right , so I would take their word and go for it and surprisingly they were right , This works for girls’ as well if she has guy friends that can tell her , if another guy is interested in her or not , Guy’s pretty much know Guy’s and Girls pretty much know Girls’. Why people that are in relationships should not really take advice from their same sex friends when it comes to disagreements with your partner , Even though you might assume your partner is being controlling or insecure they are more than likely trying to get you to see where they are coming from , trying to get you to respect them the same way you want them to respect you. I am not saying having friends is a bad thing , but there is a difference between good friends and toxic friends , A good friend is going to support your relationship and be happy for you and not do anything to cause damage to your relationship, A toxic friend will try to sabotage your relationship and try to pull you away from your partner by saying negative things , mainly because they are jealous that you actually have someone that loves and cares about you , my advice is to eliminate those toxic friends , they can cause your relationship to fail.

[Finchie40]

If I am in a relationship with a girl , she becomes my number 1 priority , if I have friends that try to pull me away from her or say negative things about her , they will no longer be close friends to me period and I will distant my friendship with them to show respect to her. Sadly
Most girls have a hard time grasping between good friends and toxic friends , because most girls’ in general are vulnerable and thrive off of drama and gossip , and most girls from my experiences are selfish people that only really care about themselves , So I only get involved with girls’ that know what it means to remove selfishness for each other , I am not going to waste my time with a girl that can’t make me her number 1 priority period

[Xysmiles]

I see this a lot even with cats in their 30s and 40s. Usually they're just shy but for me its different I just know in my heart and from experience at bars colleges malls etc. That girls just don't like me anymore probably because I'm in the worst shape of my life but way back when I learned to be confident and fun so sometimes I still ask for that dance still get rejected a lot but I don't let it phase me

[Truthatanycost]

A man being interested doesn't mean he thinks it would be worth the time, energy, money, planning, execution and compromise that dating would involve.

[LiamSawyer]

Perhaps he's not sure how you'll respond. If you like him do you encourage him and subtlety let him know you eould be interested in going out with him?

[strawberriez]

I’m not sure how to show interest back.. I don’t like being too upfront

[RealMarek]

There are many possible reasons: fear of rejection, pursuing a different woman, in a relationship with a different woman, and many more possibilities.

[OlderAndWiser]

He may already have a girlfriend and be cultivating you as a backup plan.

[ManOnFire]

Can you give any details of why you think he's showing you major interest?

[ohsheeT]

The only thing I can think of is because he knows that I'm straight

[ProbablyClueless]

He might not know whether you're interested in him.

[strawberriez]

Makes sense

[exitseven]

He might be afraid. It is possible to be so afraid of rejection that you can't make a move.

[007kingifrit]

maybe you didn't show HIM the interest, better be more obvious

[strawberriez]

How though without coming off too strong

[007kingifrit]

women can't come off too strong, touch him

[AimeeKyle]

He is insecure and/or thinks you won’t be interested/has no shot with you.

[noohair]

Fear of his ego being crushed. The male ego is like an egg, once broken, it does not fix well.

[KrakenAttackin]

He might think you are good for a hook up but not to date.

[Shy_Steve]

It depends what you mean by Showing major interest.

[Mmetwe]

Why would agirl show major interest but not accepting to out? 😊

[MementoMori777]

He probably has options

[strawberriez]

probs lol

[spartan55]

Define 'major interest'

[ChiTown33]

Because she didn't show it back.

[strawberriez]

Oh makes sense

[Luopio27]

So you could take the lead.

[strawberriez]

Never

[Anonymous]

Maybe shy or has a girlfriend

[Twalli]

He doesn't want a girlfriend

[strawberriez]

Lol! I don’t want a boyfriend but still

[OddBeMe]

Fear of rejection. Ask him.

[In_Trance]

He doesn't like you as much as you think he does

[justabuddy]

He might be unsure how he feels.

[strawberriez]

Hmm ok makes sense

[Anonymous]

Why can't a girl ask a guy out for once

[strawberriez]

The guy won’t take the girl seriously in the long run. If the girl initiates first it’s as if she’s taking the masculine role in doing so

[Opinion Owner]

How would the guy not take the girl seriously then

[Grovermint]

I never did.

[BLP11520]

He out of $ or shy?