Are most guys not into texting?

Question

Most guy friends I have and exes of mine where just not big into texting. All the girls I talk to are hugely into it. Your thoughts or experience?

sheenagwapa · Accepted Answer

men are lazy to text jmo to the point i suggested my ex before to just text me letter H which means home so that i don't worry

i think i really have abnormal behaviors because before if my ex ( he would bisit me in my house) didn't yet arrive and it's been loke after two hours of what i expect him to arrive my anxiety is really bad, i eould listen to the radio if there's a loval news of accident. i would then want to check the road. i wanna ride on the taxi and check the road

and it's all because he doesn't text back or his phone is out of reach. i went to his company before and pretended that i ammhis cousin ( people always mistaken us as siblings) and tell the people there to look if he is at work because his parents are worried not in contact with him but it is just me who is worried because i cannot reach his phone

so the time when he is able to contact me i am loke a dragon who is just so maf and would tell him to die

if iam the beach with him i get restless too because he wouldswim far and i'm worried what if he will have leg cramps and drown and so iam noisy at the beach i keepshouting to don't go fat

i then thought of buting a small round thingy like that of the lifeguard and put a rope on it because i cannot swim so in case of emergency i will just throw it to him

it's extremely important for me that i can reach his phone. i would text himat the end of my text don't bother to reply because i don't want him to get lowbatt

i just wanna know he is safe that's all. my mind would imagine a lot of negative scenes

when i learned he has depression i constantly check on him and if he doesn't answer i would think he comitted suicide. i would then bother hisfather to check on his son. i feel he doesn't believe me that his son has depression

in short i am like a lunaticgf before we are waiting for his ct scan result because he keep havinh serious headache i watch him sleeping soundly while i cannot sleep feelinh so nervous for the result. it's like i'm more worried than him.

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

I personally cannot deal with a man that's a dry texter. Like it's just so much nicer to text throughout the day. Me and my man text all day long. Only call or FaceTime so the kids can talk to him

Leapfrog00 · Accepted Answer

Texting is better used for something like confirming plans, or checking on the person if you haven't heard from them in a while, and you can't get a hold of them on the phone.

I like when a girl sends me an "I love you" text, but whole conversations make it seem meaningless over texts. I'd rather talk to a girl over the phone or in person (and I'm a shy person with social anxiety).

I would rather hear the girls sweet voice. At least over the phone or in person, if I'm talking to her, I can tell how she's feeling. In a text, you can't determine someone's emotions, though a lot of people make attempts to and it causes a lot of confusion and sometimes even an argument. (Like when someone texts back the word "Okay" when a person how they're doing, and the other person says "Just OK?".) Asking the person how they're doing in person or over the phone wHer can hear your voice, sounds more caring. Texts seem lazy and in some cases, even meaningless. I can't speak for all guys, but I would rather hear the girls soft voice or talk to her in person, or I can kiss her! (To show how much I love her and care about her).

blueonblack22 · Accepted Answer

It’s because it’s passive communication. I find that women are more averse to phone calls and face to face communication. It’s too confrontational for them.

To be fair I sometimes like texting myself. It gives me time to think of a good response. But most men are not just content with virtual attention including texting. Especially if it’s a woman we have a romantic stake in. Texting is empty calories. Junk food communication. And some women are perfectly content with just that. But men want more human interaction if it’s someone we have romantic interaction.

To a limited extent I understand how women are more afraid of direct communication with men because they have a natural fear of men. But the whole virtual setup has given them a very unhealthy crutch to get their attention needs met. It’s meant to save time but it’s actually unhealthy for both genders all the way around. I’m old enough to remember a time long ago that texting/IMing wasn’t an option for most peoples. You had to talk to people over the phone and/or meet them in person if you wanted to communicate.

coachTanthony · Answer

If you are a guy on his purpose and passion in life then NO we don't have all day to text. Texting is for confirming plans, booty calls etc

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

I favor texting for one reason only.

If someone is busy and l were to call them my call might go to voicemail or someone might feel obligated to answer while busy.

When l text, l give that individual the opportunity to get back to me in their own time.

When l text, l can convey a message that doesn’t require a response.

If l choose to carry on a conversation with a woman, l want to do so in person. Especially someone l am dating. No need to sit and stare at her because we no longer have anything to say to one another.

Of course when on a date l can think of better things to do with my tongue than waste that energy on chit-chat.

Anonymous · Answer

I feel like anymore most men are like "get me off the internet" and for women it's the inverse... another social media app comes out and it's like they have to get on that too, so they can have their 67th social media account so they can start racking up hundreds more likes in a given day there too...

It's like the attention economy just doesn't stop for women to fuel their own narcissism (I'd argue)... they feel like they have to have it. They have no concept of the damage it's doing, because they are constantly validated in the short term. And if ONE guy that is of any perceived value interacts with their post or profile, suddenly they feel entitled to that status of man... even if there's nothing to it, their heads aren't in the clouds, they are in outer space at this point. This is where we are at now.

Meanwhile, men are seeing the damage it's really doing... we simply don't get the attention, and learn not to care about the lack of attention we receive online, to the point where it's just beyond tiresome that this is the world we seem to live in now. Things are beyond skewed. It's like every time I see some average to below average, overweight girl making a duck face online, it is literally so cringe I can't even log in to these apps anymore. But she continues to do it because she probably has 20 dudes in her inbox texting/DM'ing her on the regular.

It is just flat-out tiresome. I'm not jealous of these girls, far from it, I'm not even complaining about the attention deficit... it just is what it is, and people need to start seeing it for what it is. People's egos are hugely inflated from these modern social apps.

Pacquet · Answer

I just use texting as a way of making plans but I don’t want to have a whole conversation via text. Some of my guy friends won’t shut up via text but I think women have more of an affinity for it. If I’m texting and it’s not for plans it’s out of obligation cause when I ask a woman for her number she expects me to text her but really it’s annoying and frustrating cause there’s no body language or intonation in text, you just have to guess that you’re reading what they’re saying in the way the meant it.

ZackBan · Answer

I'm a relatively good texter but I don't enjoy it

It feels pointless and limiting to have an endless texting conversation with a person.

Be it friend, work, or romance, there's usually an endgame and I prefer getting to it.

If we need to meetup let's set it up if we need to exchange info let's do that and be done with it.

I don't think there's any purpose to having a super long texting convo.
Unless you're sexting late at night (which I haven't done in ages)

The one exception might be catching up with someone in another country that you know can't meet up with locally.

AjayOnTheInternet · Answer

Guys are generally more straight to the point. We normally start the conversation with what we want to ask, once we figured it out we continue about our day. If we wanted to talk and ask a bunch of questions, we'd call.

Most my texts with my guy friends go like;

Me: Yo Wyd

Friend: Just got home, what's up?

Me: I plan on having a bonfire tonight, swing by sometime.

Friend: Sounds good, I'll be there.

Guys just like being short and to the point. If we could say one magic word, that relayed what we wanted to say, we would.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I said, yeah they are, but I have to add... to a certain point.

I have no problem making plans or her letting me know she's going to be a little late, so I don't worry about her.

However, full blown conversations are best suited either in person or on the phone. I'm therefore not interested in spending three hours of my day texting back and forth in what could be discussed in 20 to 30 minutes on the phone. I like to know that I accomplished other things in my day rather than being on the phone. In that time period, I could have made her some metal art, or fresh baked cookies to drop by her place while I'm running erands.

MrOracle · Answer

Most guys prefer to have their conversations in person, and believe texting is for sharing important facts, not for having on-going conversations. "On my way to pick you up - be ready at 7pm" is what texting is for, not "please share your feelings about..."

Yes, I have met a few guys who were just as addicted to texting as most girls are, so I'm not saying those don't exist, but they are the exception, not the rule.

bolverk · Answer

Its not that we are not into texting its just that we are not wedded to it the same way women tend to be,

I've noticed that women get irritated if men do not respond to a text message within a couple of minuets, where guys do not expect an immediate response, we're happy if there is a response within the same day or even the day after.

And usually a waste of time texting guys during the work day as they are usually focused on their job to the exclusion of everything else, when they do respond it will usually be around 30 minuets after they've gotten home and been able to de-pressurise from work stresses.

Anonymous · Answer

To be sure, I am definitely not "into" texting. However, I am techno-primitive and still use a flip phone.

In fact, when AT&T insisted that I get an updated flip phone - why, I don't know since I was reasonably contented with the old one and frankly miss the days when the phone was on a wall in the kitchen - it had texting. Suffice to add that I immediately went to an AT&T store and asked if they could remove the texting feature.

When they said they could not, I walked away saddened - a tear running down my cheek. Then I quoted them Ellen Glasgow's famous line, "All change is not progress as all movement is not forward."

At any rate, family and friends - males very much included - know how I feel about these gadgets and yet insist on sending me texts. Based on this, I must assume that most men are "into" texting - and I submit this suggests the end of Western civilization.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I really don't know but i can answer about myself miss bartender maya, if i had a girlfriend and she's at home texting me cause she misses me, i'll be more than happy to keep texting until we fall in sleep because i know that i'll be happy and will make her happy 😌

AviatorTom · Answer

Most guys I know like to text, but it's not something we guys do a lot of. Women I know, on the other hand, like to text over and over. It's the classic tale. A woman will take 20 minutes to tell a story, while a man will tell the same story in 5 minutes.

Another way of saying it. Women like to text a lot... Men, not so much.

NewYorkCity · Answer

I grew up in the age when text's were just introduced where you actually had to pay few cents per send, it was in the late 1990's. now 20+ years later I still hate it and I still trying to avoid it anytime I can. It is emotionless, it is soulless and in a way it is fake.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I'm not. My woman starts trying to talk about bullshit, and I'm just like "tell me about it when you get home."

I'm usually trying to do stuff and the phone is the last thing I want in my hand. The same goes for pointless phone calls... it's just annoying.

charrissanextdoor · Answer

From my own experience, I feel like guys relatively have low attention span so texting isn’t their forté. Their tend to be pretty straight forward and simple with their text. Only texting when checking in on you or asking you out on a date. I’ve noticed they prefer more intimate conversations in person and/or on FaceTime/ phone call.

Lionman95 · Answer

I think guys are on average not that much into texting as girls are because guys see less a need to talk than girls do. It´s not because they don´t like a girl but because prioritise communication in real life higher or they don´t see that much a necessity to talk.

236color · Answer

This is entirely to broad a question to answer. I'm an old fart, I never had a cell phone until I was in my mid to late 30s. I've noticed that many young people seem to equate how quickly someone answers their texts with how much they value the relationship. I text my wife when she's working if the message is not urgent. She can answer when it doesn't interfere with her work. If the message is urgent, I call the store and ask to speak to her. Text messages are not instant. We were sitting at dinner just a couple of weeks ago when I got a text. I looked at it and said to my wife, "You're on your way home". She had been home over an hour. Stop using text messages as a loyalty test. Sorry but there are other issues in people's lives than just you. Things like making a living, going to school, that sort of thing.

Losalt · Answer

Plenty of guys are into texting.
But even when a guy is into texting he's rarely *as* into it as girls that's *really* into it if that makes sense to you.
First of all, guys need some space sometimes.
Also, not to be offensive, but sometimes you just can't win with a girl and there's little or nothing you can do about it or for her and you just have to let her feelings and hormones run their course and try to patch things up later.
I *try* to be there for girls when that happens too, but honestly most guys just aren't prepared to deal with that.
And guys don't always get how our behaviour may be read by her.

Does all of that make sense to you?

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I'm not a fan... the miscommunications happen too easily and people are generally shitty about remote conversations.

Dargil · Answer

I can't speak for other guys but I'm good with texting. I voice transmit if its got any volume to it. I used to be on the radio in college so I use my Mr. Announcer voice and get good, fast, clean texts that need no correction. Much faster than fat fingering. And I get to say  exactly  what I want to say.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I still prefer to actually talk to a person. It is way faster and a much more effective way to communicate with a person.
I will answer a text when I get around to it, as I do not live with my phone in my hand, it is a phone.
It is ok not to look at it every time it makes a noise.

zato1abuser · Answer

For me personally it depends on the person I'm talking to. I don't like texting people I meet on a regular basis. Then texting becomes just a means to plan things or tell the other something when it can't wait. But if it's someone I'm just getting to know and I'm bored and only at home, then I actually really like it.

Massageman · Answer

If it's a topic that requires a lot of explanation, then I will text- multiple screenfuls sometimes. If it's something that needs HUGE amounts of info, then I will explain that in a cover message and switch of typing a response on my computer, and either sent a form, chart, picture, to help with the explanation and save a few hundred words.

Anonymous · Answer

No I don’t like it either. I think for one women like talking, way more than men do, gossiping. Not to mention many of them always want attention. I have a million other things to do than to sit around eating for a girl to text. If I need to talk to her I’d rather it be in person. Quicker, faster, to the point. Plus w texting there’s not context behind it as far as if he’s mad, sad or what.

red324 · Answer

I've had it where I texted back and forth 50 or 60 times a day with a girl, but then I realize what does she do with her time? She clearly doesn't work, because I didn't get shit done today. Then they freak out when you don't respond back in 5 minutes and think you're with another girl 😒

Lynx122 · Answer

I like texting it's my favorite way to communicate cause it's easy and takes less energy than calling or things like that. But my girlfriend always wants to video call me and I want to text more. But we've sort of worked out a good compromise.

shades777 · Answer

As far as courtship is concerned texting is for saying stuff like,
im parking
where are you
5 minutes away

Talking is for setting the date, and or leaving a voicemail but to text is to confirm what was already agreed to when you TALKED!!!,

women like it because they have no sense of direction and its a great waste of time, that appeals to women

pass_the_celery98 · Answer

I prefer calling so I can hear her sexy voice…I’m guilty Maya 🤦🏻‍♂️

ta-ra · Answer

If a guy is into you he will text especially in the early stages because they will want to communicate anyway they can (girls too) but if he isn't that into you no not really. But I think that goes for any form of communication lol

Mangospacho · Answer

I don’t text. Ever. I send all my messages the old fashioned way - by carrier pigeon. I’ll sometimes use the mail if there’s no pigeons around.

worldscolide · Answer

I know I'm not. I typically give one word responses, I'd much rather talk honestly.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Among peeps my age, we text but we're still old school.

We prefer talking over texting.

Usually starts with a "heads up" text before the call takes place...

Friends: "Hey, Dee! Can I call you now?"

Me: "Hey! Yeah, you can call me now."

The rest of the conversation are spoken verbally.

leahzrc · Answer

No the guy I am seeing says he hates texting and just wants to see me in person

Guido · Answer

I don't know about most but I prefer a real conversation on the phone over a text. If you have time to text back and forth then call instead. A text has a purpose but it's not meant to have a conversation.

JackCarter · Answer

The major plus about texting for me is to be able to say lovely things/compliments which if said directly would cause too much blushing for us both LOL

BunBun369 · Answer

I didn't vote cuz there is no in-between lol 🤷🏽‍♀️ I have talked to some that do and some who don't.

usernamelessness · Answer

I can’t speak for anyone else but I like texting. If I like whomever I’m talking to then any way to talk to them I like.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

If I'm doing something more interesting I appreciate texting. I'm not going to bond with you through text though.

RavVid · Answer

I choose voice or text based on which is most functional for my purpose. I am not going to have a long conversation by text.

diego_md · Answer

me the opposite, mostly i like texting especially if both parts have some real emotions and those warm feelings, it's make you really enjoy texting

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, I will text because I'm the pick of the liter.

Simslover92 · Answer

I voted wrong. Most are not in my opinion at least the guys I've dealt with were not into texting.

Tortoise_Lover · Answer

I cannot stand texting and I've never been in a relationship lasting longer than 2 weeks hahah. My last textashionship lasted around a year and ultimately she was talking and texting other guys. Waste of time and made me a phone zombie. We all love once. Rather conquer my goals. A text here or there sure but full length convos day in and day out. No please!!!

mrkdvsn · Answer

The closest I come to "texting" is this GaG site

DreamLife7 · Answer

I think men initially text you to get you then once they have you they got back to their ways of not texting. I'm a woman yet hate texting. I can't be on the phone all day texting its clingy and annoying

kevypatyy7 · Answer

Yeahost guys prefer calls and personal meetings especially when they want something real

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

I don't know about other men, but i know that i am not a texter.

elizamichale1 · Answer

I think they do a bit too much... like if u dont reply immediately they will keep texting u n all

molonski2 · Answer

I don't know too many who are into it , maybe briefly.

AaronKrieger · Answer

I am a terrible texter and not huge into it. It's pretty common.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Thankfully, everyone I know don't text at all, we all talked to each other.

ManOnFire · Answer

I think most men don’t like feeling like they are expected to be great texters.

LazerBean · Answer

Not into texting in general, but it seems like most guys are into texting a girl that they like.

Billlewis · Answer

This guy not only refuses to text, I refuse to own a smart phone.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

„A, B, T! Always be texting! Aaalwaaays be teeexting!!!“  (in Alec Baldwin‘s voice)

clampfan101 · Answer

I’m fine with texting. I’m more of a listener than a talker, though. lol If you’re looking for someone to text, I could use a friend if you want to DM.

Sharkstealth · Answer

I have always liked creative writing. Texting is similar in my opinion as some put as virtual. On that note texting has never had good outcomes for myself because I tend to say things that I would never say face to face and it comes off as offensive.

Avicenna · Answer

No, most of us are not. We just do it because we have to.

JonesT10Apr · Answer

I'm into texting very much.. I prefer text rather than calls

XXblack88 · Answer

It seems like the younger generation does. Not sure about the older generation though.

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