I always hear that girls are not attracted to emotional guys (rightfully so) but I hardly hear about how girls feel towards logical guys. I don’t think anything wrong for men to display vulnerability but lack of emotional control in my eyes not acceptance way for guys to display.
I’m 28 years old who’s never been in relationship, lost my virginity at 26, only had sec twice, never had sex since 2 years ago I’ve always been very logical and become more and more logical as I get older. As for my 25 year old brothers he’s very very emotional, his lack emotional control and has a 2+2=5 belief system however over a year now he’s been married who’s been with since he’s 18. Before he met his wife he had 3 girlfriends and wasn’t a virgin.
To me it feels like girls aren’t attracted to logical (or reserved logical guys that don’t show enough of their emotions at least). I think the reason my overly emotional brother has had success with girls probably because girls particularly in their teens are very emotional and I think emotional guys tend to give girls some kind of emotional reinforcement and security. I’m not entirely sure. What’s your take?
What Girls Said
I think you are pinning too much importance on a single character trait. You need to understand that most girls have a number of things they look for. We don't just have one box we tick and say okay. There are many things. So to think that we are just going to look at a guy and say he is logical (or not) and go for him isn't how it works. Also why can't someone be logical and also show their emotions? I think what you are describing is someone that is over emotional or outliers.
Never been in relationship beside so my thinking could come across very black and white
You could be as logical as you want. If you're a boring, rude asshole you still won't get dates.
Sounds to me like your brother has attractive qualities that you lack.
Why are you worried about your brother instead of worried about finding someone who appreciates you for who you are?