What would you think or do if someone in a position over you said this to you?

[Anonymous]

So I’m in training for a new job and my trainer is a weirdo. He is very unattractive. Short, really round. Dyes his hair red and perms it curly and his caterpillar eye brows are dyed black. Just so you can get an image of him in your mind not that that part matters. He basically looks like an obese He basically looks like an obese Richard Simmons. He spends the first couple days of training, telling us how he grew up in church. He doesn’t believe in saying cuss words, and he’s all about church and he’s traveled to a lot of places and he likes to bicycle. The third day he tells us how he went to an adult store in Britain and they had a bunch of different size and style dildos lined up in the window seal because it’s legal there. They don’t have to keep it hidden or tint the windows. He’s talked about women on TV shows and referred to them as being floozies. Today he told us he don’t know why people sag their pants when it means when you go to prison that one guys butt belongs to another guy. He stays telling the stupid ass dad jokes. Now mind you the job we’re training for his driving for the city so the time he’s supposed to be watching me and another student Drive he’s talking all this stupid shit instead. Like he literally nonstop talks and 98% of the shit has nothing to do with our job. When we sit down to eat our lunch, he pulls out his iPad and tells us to watch these stupid old TV shows with him and it’s so annoying. We can’t even enjoy our meal without him talking. And today he told me it’s about time you did something right and made me feel really stupid in front of the other student and he was just joking but still that’s the kind of stuff he thinks it’s funny.

[provokeesmokee]

He doesn't seem like someone who ought to be working with people, frankly.

I would say you could report him up, but i think he's a pity case anyways. It might not do anything other than make you a target.

He seems harmless outside of being gross, misogynitic, and uninformed. If you can, try not to let his words hurt you. Or, if you feel comfortable, confront him about how he hurt your feelings and guide him on how to avoid doing that.

He really just seems like he has zero self-awareness.

If you've got a boss, tell them what this dude is doing and saying, and tell them you want to work elsewhere away from this dude.

[Asker]

I’m afraid they’ll find a reason to fire me if I report him.

[Asker]

He also was telling a story about how him and his mother went to his mother, friends house, and her friend put a movie on where these people peeing in their naked bodies, glow in the dark, and all you seem with men’s penises bouncing around everywhere. I literally met this man one week ago.

[provokeesmokee]

Record your evidence and build your case, especially if you have witnesses or other coworkers who can corroborate your claims.

And if you do get fired, bonus - because that means you're free of a company that defends harassment.

[Staximus]

Well he's your trainer and you won't have to work with him for long. If you want the job, I suggest you just deal with it for now.

[andreasderjuengere]

I'd think: "Wait, mate. Not too long from now I will be where YOU will never rise to"