I’ve liked this one person for a long time. To this day I still don’t understand. We met 2 years ago and we never had any sort of romantic connection because it was one-sided. I liked him but he didn’t like me back and he made that very clear. When we met we didn’t go to the same school but a few months after we lost contact in 2022 I started at his school. What a coincidence.
After I started at his school we slowly but surely became friends and right now we’re quite close. I didn’t expect we’d even be this close because he knows I’ve liked him and I’ve confessed once while we were friends and got turned down. I got turned down this year April, 22. I waited 11 months to confess and it didn’t turn out well but he was very respectful about it. Surprisingly I wasn’t very hurt, I just accepted it and tried moving on. Of course I still liked him but had no plans on acting upon it.
The awkwardness from that occurrence went away just after a week and everything went back to normal. Months have passed and I was 100% sure I had moved on. I just wanted to be friends with him but deep down I still waited for him. Just recently I heard him and a girl in his class made out at a party and that they’re in the talking stage. They seem very close and I’m convinced they’re going to be in a relationship soon. Don’t get me wrong, they’re both amazing people and deserve each other but I thought I had moved on then when I heard the news I was in shock. I was and still am extremely upset.
I don’t think it’s the fact that he’s with her that bothers me but that I was never good enough for him. I changed a lot for him and in a lot of ways have become a better person, but I was still never good enough for him which really bothers me. It makes me feel like shit and I don’t even understand why I like him that much because we were never even together. I obviously liked the idea of him and I but I can’t comprehend how it’s possible to get so attached and I hate it.
Why am I so triggered?
After I started at his school we slowly but surely became friends and right now we’re quite close. I didn’t expect we’d even be this close because he knows I’ve liked him and I’ve confessed once while we were friends and got turned down. I got turned down this year April, 22. I waited 11 months to confess and it didn’t turn out well but he was very respectful about it. Surprisingly I wasn’t very hurt, I just accepted it and tried moving on. Of course I still liked him but had no plans on acting upon it.
The awkwardness from that occurrence went away just after a week and everything went back to normal. Months have passed and I was 100% sure I had moved on. I just wanted to be friends with him but deep down I still waited for him. Just recently I heard him and a girl in his class made out at a party and that they’re in the talking stage. They seem very close and I’m convinced they’re going to be in a relationship soon. Don’t get me wrong, they’re both amazing people and deserve each other but I thought I had moved on then when I heard the news I was in shock. I was and still am extremely upset.
I don’t think it’s the fact that he’s with her that bothers me but that I was never good enough for him. I changed a lot for him and in a lot of ways have become a better person, but I was still never good enough for him which really bothers me. It makes me feel like shit and I don’t even understand why I like him that much because we were never even together. I obviously liked the idea of him and I but I can’t comprehend how it’s possible to get so attached and I hate it.
Why am I so triggered?
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You know why you're triggered but I'm the same way I've experienced what you went through. How could I like someone so much we haven't even been together or why do I even like him so much they don't reciprocate and it's probably because we want what we can't have. Have you ever wanted something so much when you got it you treated it like trash after you got it? There was no emotional connection here too
Yeah but I didn’t even realise it before I heard about him and that other girl. She’s so pretty as well so it makes sense, but I just feel like I can’t be loved. I’ve never had a proper relationship because either they didn’t want me anymore or they just used me to make out. I criticise myself too much and I just feel lost atp. I waited soon 3 years for him and not even once did he want me.
He just wasn't for you trust me don't rush into shit
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