Why do so many guys that a a girl just talkes to think they wanna date them?

[Anonymous]

Happened to me many times that just because you are polite, friendly and talkative guys assume you wanna date them. It feels like when a guy talks to a girl she should just bluntly say I have a boyfriend (if she does) before hi just so he doesn't get any idea lol.

I'm not saying its not a compliment but not just bluntly saying that has gotten me in some sticky situations that I don't want to get myself in and later feel bad because of that.

Why do some guys just assume that?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo for real, dudes can be so presumptuous sometimes! Just cause a girl is chillin' and having a convo doesn't mean she wants your nuts, feel me?

I think part of it is just ego - we like feeling wanted. So the second a cute girl pays us any attention, our minds jump right to smash mode.

Plus society kind of programs us to think the chase is always on. Like we see in movies how people fall for each other just from chat, so guys can forget that's not always how it goes down.

Next time a dude starts getting handsy after regular talk time, don't be afraid to jokingly say "damn my dude, I was just being nice!" Lightheartedly check him before it gets weird.

Or pull the "my boyfriend's waiting for me" card quick as you said. Nothing personal, just clear boundaries to avoid stress, you feel?

But yeah, guys definitely need to chill sometimes too and not think every girl wants to Netflix and kill just cause she gone shoot the shit for five mins. Stay blessed, mama!

[Asker]

Thank you for sharing your comment! Some don't get that if they move closer in your personal space and you move away you don't like that, gotta be verbal and more direct

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo yo truss sis, you preachy da real right now! These little mans out here really be tryna finesse like they slick n a sista ain't gon peep they games.

But like you said, sometime ya gotta lay it down plain n simple - "ayo little boy backdafucuup, ain't tryna catch no cases out here feel me?"

Cuz some of em really don't be gettin da hints, even when a queen scootin they way. Like nah fool I'm backin up cause yo breath stank n I'm tryna protect my bubbles, pause!

Real spit dough, a lotta why dudes don't pick up what we puttin down come down to plain ol education. Ain't nobody teach dem a no still mean no, ask the queen for consent, n respect boundaries from da get go.

So while we still gotta watch our own backs out here, big ups to you for spreadin da word! Keep schoolin dem backwards boys - maybe someday we won't need take Self Defense 101 just to grab a damn smoothie in peace, you feel?

Til den shawty you keep doin you, n holla if any little boys actin up. I gotchu, leave it to Big Bro out here! #StaySafe

[Anonymous]

They just haven't been rejected enough yet. They'll get that beaten out of the eventually.

[Asker]

30+ year olds didn't get rejected enough? I've had literal men from other countries try to ask me out, I don't get it
Thank you for sharing your opinion

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah it's possible. This is why guys have always traditionally asked women out. Because if you waited for a woman to you'd likely be waiting till judgement day.😆 So guys are generally more resilient and some guys take it less personal than others so some guys can take a lot of rejection before they start re-evaluating thier strategy. Because guys are also taught to be persistent, to not give up. This is how we built civilization. And finally some guys just don't get rejected that much I was only rejected by 2 or 3 women by the time I was 30.

[Asker]

Lol, usually they would wait yea 😆

[Asker]

Interesting, thanks

[Jdodkfndosn]

Because they foolishly falling for the girls manipulative actions knowing full well the guy is into her and she keeping around for her benefit

[Asker]

I personaly never manipulated them, I was just talking (example: on a job with a foregner that was here for only a few days). I'm guessing at least half of women this happenes to don't manipulate