Guys, I see men praise drunk or party girls because they know how to have fun. Do men find it attractive when a girl doesn't want to do those things?

[Anonymous]

I'm not of age to drink yet, but due to some personal experiences in my life, I have grown a distaste for drinking and the act of getting drunk. It just makes me really uncomfortable whenever I see it now at days, so I don't ever plan to do it. I sometimes think to myself though, if maybe I should 'loosen up' and 'have fun'. But I'd do it at the expense of feeling dirty afterwards. Feeling like I've compromised my morals. I guess I worry I'm a party pooper, and the guys that I want will find me weird or annoying at the fact I find it disgusting or very uncouth and that I don't want to do things at the club, that I don't want to go to a party, etc. Maybe they think I am a prude, which, I probably am to an extent, haha. I realize that not everyone has bad experiences with drinking and that my problems aren't everyone else's. Should I just loosen up? I sometimes hear men say that party girls are fun to mess around with, but ultimately, they want to settle with a girl who isn't wild like that. I don't know really; I feel like I'm being fed contradicting ideas at times. I don't know what to really take into account.

[MementoMori777]

At the end of the day most if not all women that live a party lifestyle aren't the marriage material, it can also lead to lack of responsibilities and even tho people say they are fun, they mean easy, they get drunk, high, etc and spread their legs, entertainment is subjective to every person and if these things simply don't catch your interest then why do them? To fit in? The thing is that people that go to clubs or get publicly drunk are actually a small percentage and to be fair these aren't the people that aren't normally the best to be around anyways and why would you want to please them in any way? If anything find better people to be around or at the least, people that like the same form of entertainment as you, parties, clubs, drinking etc isn't for everyone and it's just a preference of lifestyle, dont change for others would be my recommended advice.

[Asker]

I guess I just don't want people to think I'm not fun or I'm boring 💔 but thank you for the advice!

[MementoMori777]

Weither someone is boring or fun all depends on the person, people have opinions, you are boring to party people but fun to people like you, just how party people aren't the type of people you really consider fun

[Lliam]

I never cared for drunk, party girls or the club scene. My wife used to enjoy going to clubs with her girlfriends when she was in her 20s because she liked to dance. But she's not the type to get too drunk or get picked up by strangers, even back then.

Drunk girls are silly, sloppy, loud and annoying. And by "party girls" I assume you mean "easy". Yeah, those girls are fine for a cum dump, but I would never want to date one.

I prefer a bright, intelligent woman who keeps her head about her and is fun to be around. Nobody likes a stick in the mud. That being said, there's anything wrong with having a glass of wine or two or a cocktail once in a while.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I've never seen a man praise a party girl. Sure it's nice to have around because the implication is she's easy and he'll get laid, but nobody is bragging about dating her.

You said "I sometimes hear men say that party girls are fun to mess around with, but ultimately, they want to settle with a girl who isn't wild like that. I don't know really; I feel like I'm being fed contradicting ideas at times." There's nothing contradictory there. Just because I'll sleep with you doesn't mean I want to date you. That said, I stopped doing clubs in my mid 20s and I don't really know any men of significant caliber who carred that much into their 30s. You'll be just fine in the real world.

[Miristheiss]

I would guess men complimenting that really mean this:

You are loose and will put out easy, you'll be wild and drunk and ready for me to have meaningless, casual sex with. I can get off and then never see you again. You were so "FUN".

It does not mean, I find you amazing, interesting, I respect you, I could fall in love with you, I want a relationship with you I could see myself marrying you. That type of girl isn't out drunk at a party/club being hit on by 7 guys, putting out easy.

They praise them because they can get meaningless sex from such girls so in that moment they are "fun".

[Anonymous]

It depends on where he’s at in his life as far as his mentality, his outlook on life. Honestly I don’t think men praise party girls. When I was younger sure I loved girls who were out partying, usually meant they were easy, willing to put out because they wanted to have fun, maybe hook up w a dude. But as I got older all that passed. Especially when you’re looking for something more serious.

[Anonymous]

Yes. But let's be honest were on G@G that number is miniscule.

I think you should just be yourself. There's nothing wrong with having a drink. But if that's not your thing then that's not your thing. Don't contort yourself into something you not just to win favor with someone. Trust you'll be miserable long term.

[Staximus]

I don't mind if a woman has a few drinks but drunk girls are not attractive. I don't want to have to babysit a woman who can't handle her liquor. I work at a bar and have to do that enough as it is with customers and coworkers.

[exitseven]

I sometimes appreciated somebody who liked to drink and have fun. She was the opposite of the others. I just wanted to see what it would be like.

[DarkWinterNights]

The men you see praising drink or party girls are probably not the guys you want to try to have a relationship with.

[ProbablyClueless]

Men like the confidence party girls exude. A non party Girl with confidence would be just as attractive, if not more.

[Iron_Man]

I like a good woman that doesn’t do that

[shortster]

I prefer the non-party girls.