Is he in the right for doing this?

[iluvuangel]

This guy and I have always been good friends. He always makes fun of me but it’s also easy for us to strike conversations when we see each other.
Just a few weeks ago someone randomly set us up and a few days after that things escalated. We made out and he told me he wanted to take things further. Like I said, we were friends and it all came so randomly so obviously I needed some time to process it all as I like to take things at my own pace. I eventually agreed to want to try things out so that was at least settled.
Things were a bit awkward but we could still talk in group settings. Since the plan was for us to try out things, something would have to happen yet it hadn’t, so I asked him if he wanted to do something and he said he’d think about it. After that we hadn’t talked at all and everything was really awkward so I just figured we weren’t a thing anymore. The whole situation itself was obviously confusing but given the circumstances I didn’t have feelings for him, at least not yet and that’s why I was willing to try things out.

I had talked to my best friend about the whole things and I just thought it was weird how he initiated everything yet he wasn’t able to do anything further. Just now she texted me and told me she had talked to that guy and asked him about him and I. He had agreed that it was awkward and she asked him if he still liked me and he said he had feelings for her, my best friend. This obviously came as a shock to the both of us because she was basically his “wingman.”
Like I mentioned, I didn’t have feelings for him then and there but I still find it unfair how he didn’t even tell me. He was the one who wanted to take things further and he initiated everything from the make out sesh to planning a date. I personally think he could’ve told me if he wanted things to be like before because then this wouldn’t be an issue. Instead he confesses to my best friend when we were supposed to be dating.
What should I from now on?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Move on, very responsible and mature of you to try things out first, that choice has done you right as you were able to see if y'all were compatible or not and you managed to see that it fell apart pretty quick, best thing you can do now is not take it personal and keep living, the whole purpose of y'all trying things out was in case the results led to this and now that it has, move on from the situation.

[Anonymous]

I’m not sure why you thought you two were dating when things never really took off in the first place. Transitioning from being a guy who pokes fun at you to one who sees you romantically doesn’t always work out, and I think that was the situation here, you two don’t work that way. Especially when you’re saying how awkward things were and that you thought it was over, so I guess I’m not sure why you feel it’s so unfair and hurtful. It was no longer working in the first place.

[iluvuangel]

I realised it wasn’t working today. We had a one week break from school and in that time I hadn’t been able to talk to him but I assumed things would be better once school started again. That’s when I noticed how awkward it was and today I also learned about his feelings toward my friend so I didn’t realise it actually didn’t work until today. What I find unfair is how he initiated everything without meaning anything. He just told my friend right now that he only made out with me to practice for her. I don’t like being used although I always let it happen.

[iluvuangel]

and him poking fun at me was because we were close friends. We all do that with each other to show how comfortable we are.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sorry to hear about what he said to your friend, that’s mortifying and honestly makes him look like a scumbag. I also don’t find it unfair, but just flat out shitty that he initiated things knowing he liked your friend. I think her reaction to this and whether or not she dates him will say a lot about her as well. She should have your back and not deal with men who hurt, betray or use you, and if she does then she’s as lame as him. I don't know if you’re spiritual but I believe god does things and gets you out of situations you aren’t meant to be in. For a multitude of reasons you and this guy wouldn’t work romantically, with all this recent shit being the icing on the cake. If I were you I wouldn’t feel any way about a boy (not a man) so undeserving of living rent free in my mind.

[iluvuangel]

I didn’t know he liked her until today, because she told me what he had said to her. I’m not wrong about him initiating everything. He wanted to make out, I didn’t even see it coming, he wanted to take things further as he claimed that himself. I tried to initiate something by hanging out and he wasn’t even sure then. If he didn’t see me as something more than a friend he could’ve just told me instead of trying to play me.
I definitely won’t be talking to him for awhile as he ruined my trust and friendship. I think it’s good this is over but I think he could’ve done this in some many other ways.

[Opinion Owner]

Never said you were wrong or lying about him initiating everything. You’re right, he could’ve gone about this in a much more respectful way, but he didn’t and it is what it is now. Personally I don’t think he’s worth excess thought and upset feelings.

[Iron_Man]

I don’t understand why you let a group of friends control your life your situation with another guy. This is absolutely ridiculous. Then they’re trying to plug the other guy for information that’s not my style. Having to answer to a group of friends.

[iluvuangel]

It all started off based of what other thought but we both decided on our own what we wanted after. He could’ve told me because I wouldn’t have a problem.

[Iron_Man]

Good luck to you on him

[iluvuangel]

But you’re right. Now that I’m thinking about it I should be more controlling over my own life and choices. I didn’t think it was serious until he made the first step.

[Iron_Man]

Yes, thank you very much

[Emanon25]

I don’t see he has the right to do that, you can do whatever you feel like doing.

[iluvuangel]

Are you saying he could do whatever he feels like doing or?

[Emanon25]

No, you can do, but don’t let others control and involve in your life.

[iluvuangel]

Yeah and I’ve taken note of that. I didn’t think it was serious until he actually wanted to make out with me. I just think it’s unfair how he never even informed me.