I have known him for 5 years. We get along so well and I do like him and we are friends. I will admit I do find him attractive and he is so nice to me, he’s 10 years older than me BUT he got married a few months ago. He was single for the whole time I’ve known him and then suddenly got back with his ex and married.
When we talk about work things he stands very close to me that our arms are touching.
Or if I need to hand him paper work he always touches my hand.
I was standing waiting to fill up my water bottle and he walked behind me and shoved me hard with this shoulder that he almost pushed me over and he kept walking like nothing happened.
I was standing talking to another coworker and he walked past me and banged into me again that I stumbled sideways when he had so much room to get by that even the girl I was talking to asked me why he did that.
I was helping another guy at work and he kept hanging around near us - the other guy even pointed out that he was lingering around me.
When we are talking when he laughs or makes a joke he always pats my arm.
Today I was walking in front of him in the hallway and I slowed down to go around the corner and he was walking so close behind me that he walked right into the back of me and basically touched my ass (just for a second.) We were with other people so I didn’t say anything.
I do like this guy and I just thought he was a touchy feely guy but now people are noticing too and I’m wondering what you all think about it.
He doesn’t do this with anyone else that I’ve noticed.
Last year at our Christmas party he kept head butting me when we were talking because he was so close to my face and kept putting his arm around me that a new woman we work with thought that I was his girlfriend….
He has always been like this with me but today with him walking into my behind and feeling his hand graze my ass I’m wondering if you think this is just the way he is or do you think he’s being flirty? Or trying to?
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Yo girl, ngl this dude's behavior is making me suss as hell. I mean sure, some guys are just touchy-feely types. But the way he's always putting hands on you, being extra close up in your space, constantly bumping into you... that's not normal friendly stuff amongst coworkers. Add in how he wasn't like that with anyone else, and it really seems like he's flirting hardcore.
The married thing is sketch too - maybe he was feeling you for a while and now wants some fun on the side since he's tied down. Or is still into you and this is his lame way to show it.
I'd start keeping my distance if I were you. Don't wanna get mixed up with a dude sneaking around on his wife. And you don't need workplace drama either if people start talking.
Next time he gets handsy, call him out casually like "you're getting a little close there buddy!" to see how he reacts. Maybe he'll back off knowing you're onto him. Or it might feel you out to see if you're down. Either way, watch this boy close - something ain't right with how into you he seems to be. Tread careful!
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He sound obnoxious ngl 😭 I’m guessing since you’re talking about work he’s in his late 20s-30s, I would expect a middle school boy to act this way towards his crush. Head butting and bumping seems a bit rough compared to touching your shoulder or grazing your arm. You did say you like him but he’s married, do you really wanna be involved in this kind of situation? I don’t know if it’s your wording but he sounds weird and touching you that way is inappropriate, not unless you’ve let him do that kind of thing before.
He’s in his 40s! 😭😂
That would actually annoy me n id tell them to back off😂