Coworker flirting with me?

[Anonymous]

I think that one of my coworkers is flirting with me. We get along pretty well, I noticed that she tries to "clean me up" sometimes. Brushing dust off my shirt, messing with my hair if I have some gel specks, and taking them off I wanted to know if you guys think this is flirting?

She makes several "sexual" remarks as well, in passing as we work. She also said she would bang me if she didn't have a boyfriend, but she wouldn't because of that reason (having a boyfriend).

She is a few years younger than I am.

[SomewhereElse]

Is that even still flirting at this point? Sounds very inappropriate, what kind of workplace is this! Kind of sounds like she wants to have an affair with you.

[Asker]

It's a pretty relaxed workplace. And none of us are married. We're in our 20s if that helps

[SomewhereElse]

I mean... I'm older now, but my industry is quite informal. Never seen people talk like that before though! Anyway, if you want to have an affair with her, the light is pretty green I'd say.

[Asker]

Thank you for your reply. I thought she was just being nice

[Asker]

She always is bringing up and talking about her boyfriend though. So I always just assumed she's being nice

[SomewhereElse]

maybe she wants to have a threesome then? Or she mentions the boyfriend to make sure you understand that for her, it's just about sex, not emotions. Some women are like that, I have a colleague who's pretty much slept her way through our department even though she's got a boyfriend. Proceed with caution since you work together and all that, but I still reckon she'd be up for some sex with you if something casual is of interest to you.

[Bdoz83]

Yep she’s obviously into you. Maybe she’s thinking if something happens to her and her boyfriend. She wants to keep you around.

[Asker]

She always talks about her boyfriend despite doing all these things. I just assumed she's being nice

[bean2k21]

Turn into HR and get her fired.

There's no excuse for this kind of double standard.

[Avicenna]

Yeah, definitely