Coworker flirts with every guy she sees and it's disrupting me?

[beachlover_89]

I work in a male dominated office and my new (engaged) female coworker flirts with every male she talks to ranging from 21 to 65 years old. She's my only teammate and we share a tiny office, there's always a parade men coming in to flirt with her from different depts. True I might be a bit jealous (since guys usually ignore me) but she gets loud and giggly and dumb when they tease each other.. even my older married boss flirts with her! I can hear it even through my ear phones and it bugs me. Should I try talking to her or someone about it?

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+1 y

even if I am jealous, work doesn't seem like the appropriate place for this?

[Anonymous]

Maybe just send out an email to everyone there saying how wonderful it is that our very own coworker is engaged to be married.
Big congratulations again!!
Anything you can do to remind all the guys there that she's taken. LoL.
It would be my personal mission.
I would even interrupt her flirting to ask how her fiance is doing or to say "Wow, your engagement ring looks amazing!!"
I feel for you, it would annoy me too probably.
Like why even get married if you need so much attention from other men all the time?
Good luck with it.

[ZiZi_Bell]

That would be social suicide at work.

[Opinion Owner]

@ZiZi_Bell
She is engaged, it's just a friendly congrats.
I'd even get her flowers and a balloon that says
"Yay, soon to be married!!"
I'd put it on her desk. LoL.

[ZiZi_Bell]

Everyone would instantly know why she's doing that though.
It's the height of passive aggression and generally people do not react favorably to that.

[Opinion Owner]

@ZiZi_Bell
Why would anyone give a shit?

[ZiZi_Bell]

Because these guys are obviously enjoying flirting with this woman. They don't want to be reminded it'll never go beyond flirting.

And also because passive aggression is just annoying. Either straight up come out and say what's bothering you or just move on. Being passive aggressive is just petty and cowardly.

[Opinion Owner]

@ZiZi_Bell
Fuck her and fuck them guys.
Is that straight up enough for you?
Who cares what anyone thinks about passive aggressive behaviour either?
That's just your problem.

[ZiZi_Bell]

She should care, considering she has to see these people every day. Considering they are all in the same office and have to work with each other.
Passive aggression NEVER leads to a happy resolution. It only makes people more angry and the cycle gets even worse.
The goal of a happy working environment is to NOT piss people off.
Plus, if she follows your advice and takes every chance to bring this up it could be taken as harassment.
Yes. That could happen. My mom works in an office and tells me aaaaall about the political office games and drama she has to deal with.

[Opinion Owner]

@ZiZi_Bell Yes, I bet your mommy told you lots about life.
She's not going to get fired for complimenting another woman on her engagement ring whithin earshot of male coworkers.
Everything Ivsaid was mostly a joke, but you can't pick up on it.
She's screwed in this situation okay?
The men who flirt with her, mostly wouldn't give a shit if she was married or not?
This woman fucking loves the attention and is never going to quit.
Her marriage isn't going to last long.
If the woman asking this question comes right out and tells her to stop flirting that woman is going to be offended and get defensive and their time working together is going to be shit.
It's a no win situation.

[ZiZi_Bell]

Oi.
I'm not going to waste any more time on this.

[QuestioningBoi]

I’d let her be. There’s no way she’s actually interested in the people she’s flirting with, she’s just having fun. And so is everyone else. If your boss is okay with it then he’s willing to accept the affect on your work.

[MasterKey18]

Talk nice to her and tell her how you feel. Tell her this is a distraction and could she please tone it down a notch? Other than that, ignore it the best you can. It really does sort of look like a fun sort of job.

[ZiZi_Bell]

Just try to tune it out. Focus on your own thing. If you make a big deal out of it you'll be making enemies.
If it gets too bad just send an anonymous tip to HR or something but nothing more than that.

[AllNaturalMAN]

In this day and age stay as far away from her and women in general as you can. Women in the workplace and schools are a threat to your job and can get you expelled even arrested.

[Foodboi]

Compete and win. Don't let this hoe out hoe you! Show these boys who's the real office hotty!

[wiseyoungman]

Sounds pretty disruptive, I think it's reasonable to ask for a different desk area at least

[beachlover_89]

Oh you gave me an idea, there's empty desks out in the common area I can go there

[facialhair27]

Mind your own business. Jealousy will get you nowhere

[boggboss]

This just sounds like you are jelouse to be honest

[beachlover_89]

I am definitely NOT jealous of her and the 65 year old man.. sometimes when i turn around I see him stroking her hair or rubbing her lower back and it makes me SO uncomfortable

[boggboss]

You are uncomftable about somthing that don't affect u plus bringing it up don't help as you will just appear to be jealous

[beachlover_89]

The other day the 65 year old man barged in and interrupted me when i was asking her a work question. I politely asked if I could finish my question and he started mocking me for being "so serious and business like". Now it DOES affect my work

[ZELLxoxo]

Concentrate on your work.

[Sabretooth]

why are you jealous of her?