About 8 weeks ago I slept with my work colleague on a night out. Both of us were drunk, (cliche) one thing lead to another and it just happened. I'd previously had a tiny crush on him brewing anyway, and we get on so well and he makes me laugh. Because we work so closely together (ie. in the same room for 9 hours, 5 days a week) I was naturally really worried that it would make our working relationship awkward. We went to work the next day and hadn't really had any time to discuss what had happened, but things seemed fine between us for the most part.
He gives me a lift to the train station almost every day so I knew that would be the time we would discuss it; he brought it up first saying 'I'm going to take a stab in the dark here and guess that we want to forget about last night and go on being friends like before?'. At the time I was massively confused about my feelings as I hadn't had time to process the situation, and I was worried about the consequences of what had happened so I just said, 'I think that's for the best...'. He replied by saying, 'you know I hate one night stands'...which I wasn't sure how to interpret.
Anyway, since then we just work together as normal - we act exactly as we used to with each other, that is to say, on the surface at least. Sometimes I feel we'll share a 'knowing' look if sex is being discussed, or we'll maintain eye contact for just a little too long. We flirt constantly and have mini-play fights etc.
But I know now; I don't want to forget about what happened between us, because I really like him. I can't stop thinking about him in fact; or that night and how good it was. But I'm worried that I'm either too late, or if he isn't interested it will make the work situation awkward. I can't tell whether I'm imagining that there is something between us or if he's just written me off / is just being normal with me and there isn't an undertone of 'I have feelings for you' with him like there is with me. Yes we flirt; yes we play fight; yes he'll stroke my hair or my shoulder when he walks past occasionally (I've not seen him do this with anyone else), but then there are also times when I feel he's quite cold with me.
The office I work in is extremely laid back, I think they would be OK with an office relationship as long as we were sensible and professional about it, so that's not a major issue. I know he wants a girlfriend and is a relationship kind of guy. When I think about it in its basest form, my instinct tells me that he is into me, but then I consider the fact that we work together all the time so we have to interact A LOT ... Maybe I'm misreading the signs? Whenever I've texted him he always replies within about half an hour even when its not work related. What are the chances he likes me but thinks I'm not interested because of what we agreed? Should I just tell him how I feel and risk the possibility of rejection?
He gives me a lift to the train station almost every day so I knew that would be the time we would discuss it; he brought it up first saying 'I'm going to take a stab in the dark here and guess that we want to forget about last night and go on being friends like before?'. At the time I was massively confused about my feelings as I hadn't had time to process the situation, and I was worried about the consequences of what had happened so I just said, 'I think that's for the best...'. He replied by saying, 'you know I hate one night stands'...which I wasn't sure how to interpret.
Anyway, since then we just work together as normal - we act exactly as we used to with each other, that is to say, on the surface at least. Sometimes I feel we'll share a 'knowing' look if sex is being discussed, or we'll maintain eye contact for just a little too long. We flirt constantly and have mini-play fights etc.
But I know now; I don't want to forget about what happened between us, because I really like him. I can't stop thinking about him in fact; or that night and how good it was. But I'm worried that I'm either too late, or if he isn't interested it will make the work situation awkward. I can't tell whether I'm imagining that there is something between us or if he's just written me off / is just being normal with me and there isn't an undertone of 'I have feelings for you' with him like there is with me. Yes we flirt; yes we play fight; yes he'll stroke my hair or my shoulder when he walks past occasionally (I've not seen him do this with anyone else), but then there are also times when I feel he's quite cold with me.
The office I work in is extremely laid back, I think they would be OK with an office relationship as long as we were sensible and professional about it, so that's not a major issue. I know he wants a girlfriend and is a relationship kind of guy. When I think about it in its basest form, my instinct tells me that he is into me, but then I consider the fact that we work together all the time so we have to interact A LOT ... Maybe I'm misreading the signs? Whenever I've texted him he always replies within about half an hour even when its not work related. What are the chances he likes me but thinks I'm not interested because of what we agreed? Should I just tell him how I feel and risk the possibility of rejection?
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