I’ve explained, in every way I can think of, what my needs are when it comes to a relationship. Nothing extreme… but after 3 years of trying different methods, different words, simple, complex, spelled out letter by letter… he still does things or doesn’t do things that I’ve expressed my concern repeatedly as being an issue. We get along great and make a great team most days. There’s a lot to take into account but those are the basics. I feel like I give 100% but he’s giving eh, 70% on a good day. Why doesn’t he make an effort to improve, even if it’s just to “shut me up”? He never ever shows affection. There was a time when he was affectionate. He touched me, wanted my presence, he kissed me and told me he loved me for no reason. For the last year or so, he doesn’t say I love you unless he’s leaving to go somewhere without me. He doesn't touch or kiss me unless we are having sex (which seems less and less often). I feel like he would rather be home alone or in another room by his self than me be with him. Neither of us work so we are together 24/7 but I never get sick of him. I always want to be around him. He puts his ear buds in and sits near me on the couch without ever saying a word. I just don’t get it.
Emotionally unavailable after 3 years?
