Emotionally unavailable after 3 years?

[Megandem85]

I’ve explained, in every way I can think of, what my needs are when it comes to a relationship. Nothing extreme… but after 3 years of trying different methods, different words, simple, complex, spelled out letter by letter… he still does things or doesn’t do things that I’ve expressed my concern repeatedly as being an issue. We get along great and make a great team most days. There’s a lot to take into account but those are the basics. I feel like I give 100% but he’s giving eh, 70% on a good day. Why doesn’t he make an effort to improve, even if it’s just to “shut me up”? He never ever shows affection. There was a time when he was affectionate. He touched me, wanted my presence, he kissed me and told me he loved me for no reason. For the last year or so, he doesn’t say I love you unless he’s leaving to go somewhere without me. He doesn't touch or kiss me unless we are having sex (which seems less and less often). I feel like he would rather be home alone or in another room by his self than me be with him. Neither of us work so we are together 24/7 but I never get sick of him. I always want to be around him. He puts his ear buds in and sits near me on the couch without ever saying a word. I just don’t get it.

[Anonymous]

It looks like an ironic relationship adventure.
Your partner not showing affection; however, the fact that you still get along well shows that the relationship has evolved into an ordinary story.
This situation is generally considered as the starting point of the divorce process in married people.

When presented with a percentage probability, it is usually quite likely that both sides of the story should be treated differently.

Both of you may have different understandings of the relationship...
What is a 100% (or 70%) probability for you may be different for that person.

From what you've said, it seems like your relationship has lost its sense of sensuality; It does not seem healthy for a man or woman to not pay interest to their partner during the day and to continue doing so for a long time.

[slatyb]

"He never ever shows affection" but "we get along great". What's so great about it? It sounds to me like you are lonely. If nothing changes, how much longer are you willing to stay? Another year? Five? Ten? Thirty?

[Anonymous]

You are wasting your time on this guy. Move on. You will do better.

[Anonymous]

Selfish people have their own like they don’t care 100% about the other person. They think it’s all about them.

[Avicenna]

Is he in some sort of emotional pain or grief?