Why is he interested in me again after rejecting me for being too introverted?

[Anonymous]

This guy found through out his friend that I have a crush on him and told him I wasn’t his type because I can’t hold a decent conversation even though he never talked to me himself. Now 3 years later he is talking with his friends about me who try to ship us and constantly stares at me from afar. Why is he now interested? If he rejected me for being too introverted I probably want his type physically because he wouldn’t care about that if I was hot. I look even worse now so why did he change his mind about me?

[spartan55]

Things can change in three years... Hello?

[Asker]

Yeah but what for instance? I look worse now

[spartan55]

Says you, so that's what he thinks?

[Asker]

He likes skinny white women. I’m Asian and gained a bit of weight. And If he rejected me years ago for my introvertedness he must have found me not pretty otherwise he wouldn’t have cared

[spartan55]

Not true. He may like skinny white women, but it's not like he can't be attracted to other types. It doesn't matter how hot you are, if you have no personality it's a no go.

[Asker]

He didn’t know my personality that well. He just watched me from afar in social situations. I think what happened is he rejected me for better options and realized he couldn’t get them so now he comes crawling back to me even though he is not really that interested in me. Would you consider meeting a guy under these circumstances?

[spartan55]

Comes crawling back after three years? That's a pretty big reach. So is the rest of your theory. If you think he isn't interested in you at least have a reason based on fact.

[Asker]

I can't reason based on facts because I can never now if he tells me the truth. Do you think he would tell me that he rejected me because he was hoping for better options? Don’t think so. And how is this assumption a big reach?

[spartan55]

Because it's all guessing and not what you know. Why can't you just accept his reason for rejecting you?

[Asker]

I will never know his reason for rejecting me. Have you ever rejected an attractive woman?

[spartan55]

No, I have not.

[spartan55]

Sounds like you've convinced yourself he isn't worth your time.

[Asker]

but you yourself admitted that you never rejected an attractive girl as most men wouldn't.

[spartan55]

Just I haven't doesn't mean I wouldn't.

[Asker]

why would you?

[spartan55]

Like I said, something about her personality.