My crush and I work all alone in an office together. It's getting so hard being around him and him not liking me back. How to cope?

[Bethany22]

He's the nicest most considerate man ever. The only problem is, he definitely doesn't like me the way I like him. I try dating men online, but they're just nowhere near as nice as he is, so it's not fair to them if I keep going out with them. What other strategies are there during the time that I have to be in the same room as him at work? I don't know if he knows I like him, but my voice and easy laugh and friendly shyness due to my attraction embarrasses me which then leads to resentment that his attraction never grows the way mine does. And I would prefer to be able to fully concentrate on work rather than unrequited infatuation. Guys, how do you all manage to work all this time with attractive women! Unlike women, men are probably used to pretending that they aren't turned on by all the attractive women they have to work with!

[madhatters4]

i guess in a sense there is something fun about it right? you get to be in close proximity. you get to hopefully build a friendship or even build more with that person. perhaps consider that would it be better not to work with them? get to see them so regularly?

[madhatters4]

thanks for MHO

[Anonymous]

OMG! I feel you girl! And no--it's not easier for guys. In fact, it's a LOT harder! Literally! lol! I had this problem with a crush I had at a previous job! There would be times I literally couldn't get up from the desk I was working at because of it!

[OfMiceandMen]

Depends on what you are working on. If you are working on a computer or something that needs your attention, you can always take your earbuds and put them in. If you want to avoid him a little more, just pretend you are listening to music. If he sees you are busy and have the buds in, he's less likely to try and chat you up.

Alternatively, you can turn some music on low and it will keep your mind on your office work and not on him.

[NathanDavis]

just keep it up and get to know him way better... for real

soon enough, you'll find out things you don't like much about him and that infatuation will fade... lol

realization will tame idealizations, eventually

[nawtee_me]

Just because the women are attractive doesn’t mean I want to be with them. Knowing they don’t feel the same about me as I do them makes it easier to move on.

[AviatorTom]

If you really like him, ask him to join you for lunch. Depending on his reaction, and how he is at lunch, tell him how you feel. Nothing gained if you don't try.

[shortster]

Realize that work relationships rarely work out. And often lead to work drama.

[Nikki1989]

Never date someone you work with. That is a disaster in the making.

[Uglycryer]

Men will flirt and hit on women at work that’s how they deal with it.
Maybe poke him or be playful.

[Anonymous]

You don't know him. Get to know him better and I guarantee you... those feelings will change. Your fantasy is what you like.. infatuation.

[zagor]

I had that issue some years back; I was very hung up on our summer intern. I went into a funk when she went back to college.

[jack_hanma]

Kick him in the nuts as hard as u can and just laugh on him till he get up 🤣🤣🤣

[TooHot2Care]

That's rough, babs. :(

[Mansearching]

You deal or move on.

[Jennz6]

It’s definitely 💯 heartbreaking 💔