My boyfriend was calling my helper "My Dear" what does that mean?

[sage2021]

He called her "Kiddo" for about a month after meeting her when she would deliver our groceries. Then one day he started calling her "My Dear" and not wearing a shirt around her. They would stand at the door together and laugh, but didn't include me and she was working for me, I hired her.
I think they were planning on a future together, but he died suddenly instead. She was the one that told me he died.
This might sound weird, but I'm glad he is no longer here, and hurting people (me) anymore. He hurt me enough and was just getting ready to do it again. Too bad for him. RIP

[FunkyMonkee]

Sounds a tad fishy, to me! Normally, I would've said there was nothing to worry about but, from what you've said about her and now, SHE told you he was dead, it reminds of of a girl my brother got involved with who almost killed him!!
Did you go to his funeral? I mean, you actually SAW that he was dead?

[sage2021]

@FunkyMonkee
The cops and the county Medical Examiner came over after she told me. He didn't have a funeral. But she said she had called the coroner to see what was going on with his body. Shit, she told me they only talked a few times and he wasn't her type. What a frickin liar. She is a liar just like he was.
He was in the Navy for 10 years, so his brother said in January they will have a Veteran Memorial Service for him. His brother has his ashes at his house.
The Medical Examiner said he had two pipes. One on each side of his body. So, I think he had my money and she was with him when he died and she took off with my money and got out of here. She had her eye on him all day because she said the coroner didn't come until 4:00 pm Why would she know that if there was nothing between them?
It's weird, but ever since he died, her hair is falling out and she's going bald in the front and a little on the left side. I wonder if shock can cause a person to loose their hair. That's strange.

[FunkyMonkee]

I don't know if it can make them bald but I'm pretty sure it can make them go grey.
Anyway, curiouser and curiouser!

[FunkyMonkee]

Was there an autopsy?

[sage2021]

@FunkyMonkee
Yes, there was. Cause of Death was Fentanyl and meth.

[FunkyMonkee]

I think that's how they got my guitarist, too.

[Fuentes]

That is off and kinda strange but yeah he's no longer able to do that. Did that girl ever say she was sleeping with him once he passed in? Did she show up to the funeral?

[sage2021]

@Fuentes
No, she played dumb so I wouldn't catch on. He was cremated and there was no funeral. But she said to me that she called the coroner to find out anything.

[Fuentes]

Does she still work for u
?

[sage2021]

@Fuentes
Yes, because she thinks I don't suspect a thing. She lied so much to me, just like he did.

[RealMarek]

Sounds like a difficult relationship. I hope you find peace of mind and healing.

[Likes2drive]

Seems like he was a flirt with many women, did she take it hard when he died too? Seems like you were a relationship of convenience

[sage2021]

@Likes2drive
What can I say. Ever since I have known him, people warned me to stay away from him. But I felt sorry for him because he has ADHD and I did his thinking for him on things he didn't understand. I helped him with life in general because the ADHD made him not be able to do a lot of things In his life - like go to college, etc. It wasn't for sex - that's for sure.

[sage2021]

@Likes2drive
He used her for her SUV 4 wheel drive car cause he didn't even have a car. He always used people for what he could get from them. That's why I don't feel so bad that he's not around anymore.
I don't know if she took it hard or not. She had to keep her cards close to her vest so I wouldn't suspect anything. But she sure asked me a lot of questions. 🧐

[Likes2drive]

Seems he had a way with women even though he relied on people for things

[sage2021]

@Likes2drive
Oh yes, he couldn't get enough of the women. He had a wandering and he broke hearts and hurt those women.
He just had a way with the women. He made me feel very special when I first met him 7 years ago. But I didn't know he was a womanizer in the beginning. There were women calling on my home landline phone ☎️ asking for him and telling me how he told her he really liked her. I said I was his wife. She never called back.
It was too much - everywhere we went he would flirt and they would flirt back. Women in our apartment building would just walk up to him and throw her arms around his neck - with me standing right there and I was supposed to be his girlfriend 🙄

[Likes2drive]

Amazing he was so good with getting women considering all the problems he had mentally, I guess he was a good looking guy, and knew how to talk to women

[sage2021]

@Likes2drive
Yes, you are right, he had a way with the women. It's not that he was really good looking, in fact he was bald except for some white hair above his neck to the sideburn areas.
It was his personality!!! He had a way of making of making women feel special about themselves. He also was always helping them because he knew how to fix things. The women in our apartment building would come knocking at the door 9:00 at night asking for him to come and fix the tv because the cable broke. Then he'd go over there and turn on his charm. It made me sick. He always wanted me to know there was someone else, but it was a secret. He wouldn't talk about it. He told me that if I accused him of being with other women that he would leave and wouldn't live here anymore.
Well, he left the building alright but he wasn't alive anymore and cannot hurt me anymore and I feel very peaceful now.
It's hard to have a man tell me he loved me for 7 years when I would find empirical evidence of him being with another woman, then not say a word about it.
I think I am the one resting in peace. I don't know if he went to heaven or not, but he did some bad things to people and hurt them too. So, I don't know what God did with him.

[Likes2drive]

Oh ok, so it wasn’t his looks, I’m actually good at fixing everything in a house and cars but I never get any women from it , I don’t look bad , missing hair on top a bit but still have the rest and it’s still blonde and white. I was wondering what he was doing to get women. I guess you’re stress is over now

[Surely]

I hope that you can put him behind you and find the love that you deserve!

[exitseven]

You need to get rid of her.

[Jamie05rhs]

I'm sorry, Sage. That's really terrible.

[sage2021]

@Jamie05rhs
Ah, that's ok - he hurt me a lot and other people as well. I am just starting to realize that it's better this way because now he can't hurt me or anyone else anymore. Thank you.

[Jamie05rhs]

You're welcome. 💙

[Jennz6]

That’s too bad RIP

[sage2021]

@Jennz6
I don't think it's too bad at all. He was just about to leave me for my helper lady. Yep! They hooked up. She's the one that came to my apartment and told me he was dead. I think it's great that finally he didn't hurt me one more time, because he hurt me so much in the 7 years we were, well, I don't know what we were. He used to call me his fiance but I told him I didn't want to marry him. I wasn't really his "girlfriend" - we were more than friends though.
She is married to a disabled man, and I guess she was going to leave him.
I hope he's not resting in peace. He doesn't deserve it. He hurt a lot of people in his life.
I'm sorry I sound mean and hateful, but I just couldn't live through seeing them together as a couple after all of my hard work taking care of him. This way it's better. Now he can no longer hurt people!

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

Doesn't sound good... I think u should be worried

[sage2021]

@SUMAIREBRAHIM
They hooked up - right?

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

I don't know I need more information 😐 but it's redflag definitely

[Mr-take-yo-girl]

He was definitely tapping that

[sage2021]

@Mr-take-yo-girl
I thought so. She is married too, but I guess that didn't matter to them.

[Mr-take-yo-girl]

What was thier age difference

[sage2021]

@Mr-take-yo-girl
He was about 7 years older than her