Should I break up with my boyfriend?😬?

[Anonymous]

Ok so long story short me and my current boyfriend were talking for about 3 months before we officially dated. We would hang out a lot and he would take me on trips and even to a family event once. I had met his parents since I was always over at his house. I wasn’t having sex with him because I don’t have sex with guys unless I’m dating them. I found out he had been sleeping with someone he was with before he met me while we were a “thing” but he cut it off without me asking after he asked me out. I kissed other guys but never slept with any so this upsets me. And it feels like he cheated because we basically acted like a real couple besides not having sex. He is a good boyfriend now but this still just bothers me at times. Thoughts?💖

[RavVid]

So he was having sex with another girl whilst you were talking and you were kissing guys whilst you were talking but whilst you were talking you were acting as a couple with you attending his family events and spending a lot of time at his family home.

The talking phase is fairly confused. Most people expect fidelity in a guy gal relationship (gay guys don't it seems, dunno about lesbians). When does that happen and how is it understood to have happened?

That seems to have been when he asked you out. So I don't think you have much reason to complain. I do think the talking phase is a bit FITH.

[Hypernutz]

In my experience to have a good relationship loyalty is super important especially in the talking phase any physical contact with anyone else but each other, is a big no no unless its been disclosed and or agreed upon. The beginning of your relationship is the foundation and will be its earliest memories even the "were just friends" or " the talking phase" if you can look past that and still like/love and trust him then stick with him if not then leave. In closing I will say if this guy did disclose all this upfront then at least you knew about it and he was honest if he tried to hide it and got caught that's a different angle if it were me I'd left at the point of knowing whoever I was talking to was sleeping with someone else. good luck hope this helps

[LazerBean]

Well yeah. Even if it wasn't technically cheating, it was whore activities and whores always make worthless husbands and fathers

[WhitneySnow]

No. Don’t break up with him. Talk to him about this. Tell him it bothers you.

[m33ladEmjay]

You're dating from the pool of 90% of guys who lie to girls to get l##d! You should aim for a guy whose honest and doesn't care about how you would react from the start. (Within reason)

the we#k guy you've picked is not ready for a relationship he doesn't know what else to do since he has no manly skills. one of the reasons why I keep saying girls in their 20's date guys 30 to their mid 40's...

Is because of this main reason.

When you make demands and the agrees.. Dont jump into it. Good chance he's lying. He just want to get l##d and nothing more.

Try to find straight forward guys... At least you won't get hurt. I've never had a girlF and I dont understand why men go into a relationship if their aim is not to get married. JUst remain as friends that have fun.

Yes, end it!

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[Yannae]

I side with him, because he didn't ask you out. He was still dating and while dating you determine for yourselves if the other person is right for you. Just like you, he was looking for the right person to get serious with, and as soon as he found it he dropped everything. Just like you dropped everything.
As long as you two aren't officially in a relationship, both people are free to do what they want.

[Daffotul]

exactly

[ProbablyClueless]

You should not break up with him over that, no; that would be extremely unfair and honestly, I would go so far as to call that abusive. You don't get to retroactively hold someone to a standard that didn't apply when they did what they did. You're trying to hold him to your own standard of behavior when you and him weren't even dating yet.

[Anonymous]

No you don't get it both ways. YOU weren't sleeping with him because you weren't together so you don't get to act like you WERE together when he was doing something you don't like. Until you sit down and both have that conversation, you're not together. There's no "acting like we were"... either you are or you aren't. I can say I'm acting like the queen but they don't let me wander around Buckingham palace.

[Flatmanlewis]

That’s the textbook definition of cheating. In fact, it shows his needs are not compatible with your values. What happens down the road if you’re pregnant or ill and you cannot provide services? Will he outsource then too?

[wiltingrosepetal]

You weren't exclusive, so he's morally in the right. If you had put up a boundary earlier on then it would've been different

[Drumlin2001]

So you weren't cheating whilst kissing the other guys?
You weren't an official couple, neither of you were exclusive.

[JacobJordan]

You kissed other guys while you 2 were a thing as well. He just went further. Either neither of you cheated or you both cheated.

[DextroShade]

So he was having sex with someone else before he was committed to you? You literally have no right to me mad at him, get over yourself!

[ChicoFromThe305]

I think that all depends on you but I would understand why if you did

[Twalli]

Well you weren't dating. When you were, he ended it. So he really wasn't cheating on you.

[spartan55]

I don't understand what you are upset about?

[Daffotul]

me neither they weren't exclusive?

[Joker_]

I broke up with mine

[Al_Musafir]

Yeah.

[BarryLiverstone]

Probably