I like talking to him a lot whether it's texting him in morning or calling him during my lunch break or asking him out since all we do is hang out at his place we've been on 2 dates like actually dates outside since we started talking from last year November and since March it's just been mixed with hooking up. When I try to get him out he is either tired, busy or he doesn't wanna go out but he loves going out on solo trips. I have talked to him about that his response it came up out of the blue that's the thing he has to do or he just doesn't have the energy yh but he has the energy when I get to his place to do other stuff. I've resorted to videocalling him on my days off if our schedules line up so I stopped going over to his place the past 6 months now and I still can't get him out if his house, he's either working on something with a friend, working or doing a side job again spoken to him about it all I get is apologies and nothing else. I don't want our relationship to be just physical, yh he's and asshole for not telling me he doesn't want something solid before I slept with him but I like him and see actual hope in this one maybe we just have different love languages. What do you suggest I do, give up or wait it out until he takes me seriously. The first guy I dated before him was a abusive scumbag and extremely manipulative that demanded stuff from me which I didn't like after a year of that I don't want my second guy to be a disappointment too.
I dont feel like he like me as much as I like him?
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This is a tough situation, but I understand both you and him, and I will tell you why: I completely feel you that you want things to progress into a more solid relationship instead of just sex, and I do understand your frustration with him not wanting to go out and spend more time with you, yet being perfectly available for sex with you.
But also at the same time I get where he's coming from a little bit in that he also likes to have his personal time and do his projects. Seems like he wants to try to build his life up and make money, especially with how you said he gets side jobs from time to time. However, that doesn't make it fair that he's open to see you when sex is involved, and that you're always meeting at his place but he doesn't really want to go out anywhere with you.
My personal opinion is that I think ultimately this sort of situationship will end up hurting you. You've already talked to him about it and there isn't a change. I know you want him and want things to work out, but if the other person isn't showing you the same consideration then you should let go.
He agreed we can sit down and tall about but I don't have much hope for it.
Yeah. I mean, have the talk with him anyway and see what he says.