I have a guy friend at work who treats me like a girlfriend by doing sweet gestures like going to places I like, driving almost 100 miles to hang with me, gives me friendly hugs to thank me, says i’m a great person, asks to hang out or what i’m doing during the weekend, asks what my interests are (fave coffee shop/music/fashion) and would listen to those songs or take me to my similar places that meets what I like. Sometimes if he has food like bread and see’s me walking around at work he would offer it to me. We even talked about going to disneyland together and one time i said “if you’re too busy this week to hang it’s okay” and his reponse was “you are a special friend to me so I will always make time for you.” I know he has his own guy friends to hang with if he wanted to but i thought it was sweet he makes time for me to hang. And when we hangout, it’s not 2-3 hours but almost 4-7+ hours. I thought he has some feelings for me but he calls me “sister or bro” sometimes which makes me feel like i’m in the friendzone. Does he have some feelings or really see’s me as his sister? I have many guy friends and I never met a guy who took cared of me so well like this
Guy friend shows sweet actions but calls me his sister?
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Yo, this dude definitely sounds like he's into you for sure. No way a guy does all that stuff and spends that much time with a girl if he just sees her as a sister. Like taking you to your favorite spots, listening to your music, hanging for hours on end - that's all couple kinda activities.
The "sister" thing is probably just his way of playing it safe in case you don't feel the same way. Like dropping hints that he likes you without outright saying it and risking rejection. Classic cop-out haha.
But seriously, no one makes that kind of effort for a "friend." The way he compliments you too and always makes time, dude is totally crushing. I'd say you need to just subtly start flirting back with him more and see how he reacts. Like see if he responds positively or steps his game up even more.
Then when you think he seems into it, just feel him out and ask straight up if he sees you as more than a "sister." Reassure him you're into it too. Guarantee you guys will start dating for real after that! He clearly wants it, just gotta let him off the hook from the "friendzone." Go get him!
I'm not sure that calling you "sister" in this context means that he doesn't actually like you. It's more of an affectionate term in this case, I think.