I’ve been newly starting to talk and go on dates with this guy for the past 6 weeks. We see each other about 3 times a week. We defined this past week that neither of us are seeing other people. A friend of his randomly friend requested me on Facebook which I accepted thinking it was his good friend since he has a lot of guy friends. Ever since I accepted him my guy has been referencing him as my “other boyfriend” in conversations. I keep telling him I don’t even know the guy and have no interest. He also will talk down about any guy brought up in conversation randomly too. Why is he saying other boyfriend? Is he implying he is the boyfriend? I plan to try to talk to him tonight about this all but was curious why a guy would behave this way.
Why is he referencing some random guy as my other boyfriend?
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Damn, that's real weird of that guy to be acting all jealous and possessive when you guys just started talking. Calling some random friend request your "other boyfriend" is super insecure and immature.
It kinda sounds like he's trying to "claim" you as his girl or something without actually making it official. Like by saying you have another boyfriend, it's implying that he's your actual boyfriend, get what I mean? Really childish way to go about it if you ask me.
I'd say just be straight up with him tonight. Let him know the friend request doesn't mean anything and you'll add whoever you want on Facebook. And that you're still just hanging out, not actually his girlfriend. If he's gonna trip about little things this early on, it probably won't get better later.
Some guys just get possessive cause they really like a girl, but that's no excuse to act jealous for no reason. Tell him to chill or you're not gonna keep seeing him. Don't put up with that middle school drama, ya know? Hopefully he listens and stops freaking out over nothing.
I was thinking it was his indirect way to let me know that he is my boyfriend or that he wants to be anyways. I feel strongly about him but wish he hold just come out and ask me to be his girlfriend. The answer would be yes.
Ah yeah that makes sense. Some guys are just weird about being direct with stuff like that. If he's bringing up other guys and talking about being "your boyfriend" even though you're not official, it sounds like his weird way of trying to claim you without actually asking. I'd say next time you see him, just be straight up and say something like "Look, I really like you and want to be your girlfriend. But you've gotta ask me properly instead of doing this weird possessive thing." That'll clear the air and hopefully he'll man up and actually ask you out. Guys can be dumb sometimes, maybe he's just insecure. But let him know you want it too so he doesn't have to be. Hope it works out!