Help me understand this guy?

[Ofoceansbeaches1]

The guy often tells me he is alone. He often vents to me and tells me of his anxieties, fear, depressions. and we have these sessions where he tells me his concerns of his parents, his fears and him advising on my health issues.

I sort of notice he may be emotionally dependent on me and i dont know what to feel about it. He also said im the only one who can relate to him due to us both having traumas

Am i wrong to fear this? He once rejected me in the past but how come he keeps running to me when he is sad, depressed, alone or have anxieties? Why can't he just go elsewhere?

Now he told me he is coming back to my city, its also where his parents are as he originally comes from here and tells me he'll have a trial and if everything goes well settle here for good.

I felt like i've subscribed to something which i didn't press a button on or maybe i did?

For those who may judge my worry, i have every bit to do so since this guy in the past rejected me and the past months kept on complaining he is alone, depressed and everything else. And tells me im the only one who understands or listens.

I've had friends in the past but this one is like an emotional support of an SO minus the commitment and everything else.

[Oliverlogan263]

This guy sounds kinda clingy and needy. I can understand venting to a friend sometimes when you're feeling down, but he seems really dependant on you for emotional support. Always going on about being lonely and depressed is kinda draining too.

I'd feel wary in your shoes. Rejected you in the past but now wants all your time and attention when he's sad - that's not really fair on you. A friendship should go both ways. Also telling you that you're the only one who understands him, that's a lot of pressure to put on someone.

If I were you I'd maybe try putting a bit more distance between you guys. Don't ignore him completely, but don't be as available all the time for him to vent either. Have your own life and other friends too so you're not his only thing. If he complains, just say you're busy, gotta go study or something.

See how he acts with less attention. If he gets needier and more clingy, that's a red flag. A true friend will understand you have your own stuff going on too. Set some boundaries so it's not all about what he needs from you, there should be balance. Hope this help, let me know if you need any other advice!

[Ofoceansbeaches1]

Thanks. I plan to remove myself from social media from time to time

[Oliverlogan263]

That's smart, taking a step back on social media is a good move. Don't give him so many opportunities to hit you up when he's feeling down.

Guys like that, they'll keep you on a string and drag it out if you let em. Gotta create some space so he learns he can't just come running to you 24/7.

Plus then you won't gotta stress checking your phone wondering if he's gonna message complaining again. Give yourself a break from all that baggage, feel me?

When you do go back on, definitely don't be as available right away. Leave him on read sometimes instead of always replying in two seconds. Make him work for it more.

Keep your circle tight too, hang with the real ones who lift you up instead of bring you down. Don't be his shoulder to cry on 24/7 while he's out there living his life, ya feel me?

Stay busy with your own thing. He'll either step up or dip if he can't keep leaning so hard. Then you'll know where you really stand. You got this!

[SotiCoto]

Why are you posting this here? Tell him that.
What is with people on here telling complete strangers things they should be addressing to the ones they're talking about?

[Hardshell1234]

Hmm sounds like he definitely wants you to know you are important to him. He probably struggles with self esteem stuff so maybe that’s why he rejected you? He def wants your attention though…

[Anonymous]

It’s funny how you try to understand him, I wouldn't even bother listening to that depressed loser.

[boggboss]

Help u understand ehat u have become part of his emotional support system u decided to let this happen by saying nothing and letting him do this

[OddBeMe]

Yeah…sounds needy. If he’s too heavy drop him. Some chicks like “projects” which he sounds like a home makeover. Others are too busy,