Am I weird for hating when people touch my stuff?

[Anonymous]

especially things in my room...like I'm not hiding drugs or p*rn or anything like that but if I find out my sister or mom went into my room it really makes me angry. and my mom thinks it's cool to go and clean my room for me! sure it was messy but 1. I like it like that and 2. it's not her mess to clean! like I feel totally invaded..while I was at my dad's today she did all my laundry and organized my make up and bookshelves...i mean some people would be grateful for a mom like that but she knowsssss it makes me mad considering she has done it before! it's a quirk of mine that she needs to respect. don't touch my sh*t, and we're good to go. I just spent the last ten minutes moving my bed and dresser back to where they should be and strewing my schoolbooks and pencils on the ground how they were before and fixing everything. it'd be different if I appreciated her "act of kindness" but it pisses me off and what's worse is she knows I hate it but she did it anyway. UGHHHH I feel so violated.

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OMG guys I don't know what to do...back in like March or April I really started hating myself and developed some extreme dieting tendencies...i was cutting out pictures of models and keeping a notebook of what I ate, my measurements and weight, etc. I also wrote little entries that were pretty self-demeaning. however, it was one of those overdramatic, temporary things. I stopped making such journal entries and forgot about the notebook which was tucked away in my bottom drawer. to be continued..

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so like just last week I found it and tore it up and threw it away. but I got in a fight with my sister today and she texted me about having something of mine that was in my dresser...she knows about it all! she must have torn a page out or something without my notice?! I feel like triply violated and now I have to be like super nice or else she'll tell my mom who'll worry...even though I'm not like that anymore! help, seriously.

[ZenQueen]

o god I am the same way, even friends coming in my room saying "what's this? what's that?" and grabbing at my stuff. I guess I think they will find something of mine and not understand the reasoning behind it. like I collect weird crap... and I have to explain it to them and if I can't then I am annoyed, plus I do a lot of writing and its scattered throughout my room and some of it is really personal and I don't want people reading it, let's see also I don't want people stumbling upon my dirty clothes or anything else nasty dirty embarrassing because I haven't cleaned my room for a while. But even when my room is clean I don't like people going through my stuff... also, I steal/borrow stuff from my mom, like her make up, nail clippers or incense holder and I don't want her finding it and getting mad... lol people are weird... we are like rats who hoard random crap and shiny things.haha I think its human nature to be possessive of our junk.

[ZenQueen]

...maybe I am this way because my mom used to raid my room for drugs O.o

[ZenQueen]

I still have my "thinspo" notebooks... looks like a crazy person made that thing, hundreds of pics of skinny chicks... but if someone found it I wouldn't care, sometimes not feeling at all is the best way to deal. just tell your sister you don't care and that it was shady of her to go through your stuff... and yea... that was messed up of her, sorry:/

[cun7n1nja]

I feel exactly the same way. Are you an only child? I feel like that has a lot to do with it for me. I'm not an only child, I have a half brother, but we didn't really live together growing up, so I've got kind of an only child mentality, lol. My mom doesn't do what yours does, but I'm like that when my friends touch my things too. Like I'm super protective to the point of anxiety, and I can't help it, lol. I also tend to spend more time at other peoples' houses [since I was young] and very rarely ever have anyone over at mine, so that has something to do with it too I'm sure, I just don't like other people in my space. Like my room and my things are an extension of my 'bubble', haha. Hell, I'm more protective of my things than I am of my own personal space. That sounds super materialistic, but it's not at all. I can't even explain it, lol. I'm sure you know what I mean though, we seem a lot alike in this aspect.

[Asker]

no I'm not an only child. I'm a middle chile though..so maybe it's that damned curse

[cun7n1nja]

I could definitely see it being a middle child thing too, lol. More people to keep away from your s.hit, haha. =P

[emma2184]

hey i feel the same way i am too an only child but no one understand my anxiety i know when someone has touched my stuff and when i complain they do not understand they are like nothing is broken or anything but it is not that case it is that someone touched it made it out of place and that no privacy

[elements]

I'm kind of the same way, although I clean my own sh*t, and other people's sh*t, haha.

But it only bothers me because my mom has seriously invaded my privacy before, and ever since then, I'm not comfortable with her or other people snooping around my stuff.

[Asker]

I mean my room wasn't even like super messy..it was some dirty clothes, books, random stuff. but it certainly wasn't dirty with like rotting food and grossness lol. so it's not like we were gonna get bugs or mice or anything! there was no need for her do go through all my stuff and completely rearrange my room when she knows I hatehatehate itttttt.

[Ezmotts]

I know how you feel, I hate when people move my things. There's order in my disorder.

[JJAY-]

Hi! I also experience this, i hate when people touch any of my stuff - especially stuff i worked hard to get (i. e spent a long time to get it, a lot of money, hard work, etc). I get really REALLY stressed and suddenly want to cry and sometimes worse thoughts enter my mind, ALL OVER SOMEONE TOUCHING MY STUFF. EVEN if its a virtual game and im saving stuff for something or building a house, i hate when people ask me for stuff or put stuff in my storage as a gift without asking. It just really pisses me off, and makes me wanna cry and throw everything in my room and just destroy it. It feels like the item is ruined when someone else touches it, and its not special anymore. My parents dont think i have OCD or ADHD or Autism, but i really want to get diagnosed. I've taken multiple ADHD tests and gotten multiple scores and they have always been above 70%. Please, help! I need an explanation.

[Just-A-Person]

I'm like that too. I hate when people mess with my stuff and get really upset when someone goes into my things without permission/ me supervising. It always drove me nuts when my mom would try and clean up my closet. I felt like I couldn't find anything afterward and that my personal space had been invaded.

[naturaldisaster]

Youre young and you shouldn't feel this way at your age, but I know what you mean with people touching your stuff, I don't let my cousins or sister or anyone for that matter use my laptop or touch the screen when they want to use it. They have to beg me for months for me to let them use it, I keep my stuff close to myself like you. But don't get pissed off right now, just tell them to keep out of your stuff or you'll do the same with theirs :) I do that hehe

[Misty_04]

Buy a lock for your door. Problem solved.