Am I wrong for feeling this way?

[Anonymous]

There is a guy who caused me problems, he would judge me, humiliate me if I wouldn’t give him attention and he also had a huge ego. Well recently I heard that he is battling an illness. When I heard the news I didn’t feel any kind of sympathy at all. I still don’t. Is it normal to feel this way? I am the most forgiving understanding person and have compassion and sympathy for what others are going through but for some reason I don’t feel that way for him. Am I wrong for how I feel?

[Oliverlogan263]

No way, I don't think you're wrong at all for feeling that lack of sympathy. Dude straight up treated you bad in the past by humiliating you and judging you when you wouldn't give him attention. He sounds like a total jerk with a massive ego too. So it makes complete sense that you wouldn't feel bad now that he's dealing with an illness. Like, where was his sympathy for you when he was putting you down? He didn't care how he made YOU feel back then. So I say you're totally allowed to not care how he's feeling now either after how he acted. Don't beat yourself up over it - the guy brought it on himself by being such an asshole to you. You're usually super understanding, so it just shows how much he musta messed with your head for you NOT to feel bad for him now. You don't owe that dude any sympathy. He made his bed, now he can lie in it as far as I'm concerned. So no, I don't think you're wrong at all. Don't second guess yourself - your feelings are valid after what he put you through.

[Asker]

You’re so right about this thank you

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re very welcome luv

[AmeerX]

You are not wrong and in fact you are completely showing a natural reaction. Be that as it may, don't let it corrupt your heart. Let it be known that you were hurt but it doesn't mean it gives you a right to hurt others. Don't become what you hate because sadly a lot of people end up doing that.

I can tell because I have also felt like this towards someone. Just in the end I can tell you that you need to move on from the negative person he was and give someone else all of yourself to whoever showing any promise. Showing interest to the people. Remember, that you are not responsible for other people's fates. Most times they end up doing the same thing over and over again. So, break the pattern.

However please do forgive and forget the past as lingering in the past is painful. Look to the future with positive emotions and hope to give someone worthy of you all that love you possess 😊.

As for me, I felt disgust at women who broke my heart so, years later, I say "Good riddance" if someone really values me she will care for me like lovers should. Just be grateful to God for your health. You need to understand that the right person will make you sweep off your feet and never try to hurt you. Always find time for you, always try to be understanding, always caring to you.

Just waiting on them will make you more attracted to each other 💓. That's so sweet form of love.

[Billlewis]

I don't think you're necessarily wrong for feeling that way, but you may want to reevaluate your position eventually.