I’ll paint the picture a bit. there is a group of 3 of us. 1 girl (me), 2 boys. we’ll call them Boy (A) and Boy (B).
Me and Boy (A) REALLY like each other but Boy (B) tends to gets really angry at us for simply just interacting with one another. specially when we’re joking flirting with one another at times. So now i TRY to be careful about what i say to Boy (A) when Boy (B) is around but sometimes i can't help it, its just natural for me to say something flirty at times and to put it bluntly i fucking hate it. I hate that i have to feel like we’re walking on eggshells whenever Boy (B) is around just because he gets jealous, or because he feels ownership over us because he introduced us to one another I don't know. me and boy (A) have to suppress ourselves and keep our feelings behind closed doors for a older man child because if he knew the real truth he’d lose his shit and neither of us can be bothered to deal with that and i just dont know what to do.. parting ways from the trio isn't really an option. i’ve tried distancing and limiting any 1 on 1 hangs out with Boy (B) and he clearly notices cause he brings up “if Boy (A) was around you’d stay”. “why’d do you *blank* for Boy (A) and not me?”
He knows im not interested in him and yet he still expects me to interact with him the same way i do with Boy (A) and its just really starting to bug me a lot and I don't know what to say or do that won't make him lash out at me. do i just try suppress myself and my feelings even more when he’s around? because i feel like i shouldn’t have too but it also feels like the only option.
so please help, any help. i’m not used to this behaviour.
any similar stories are welcomed.
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Damn, that's a messed up situation. This Boy B guy sounds like a total cockblock. Just 'cause he introduced you guys doesn't mean he owns you or can control who you talk to! Sounds like he's jealous that you and Boy A clearly got a thing.
Here's what I'd do - you gotta have an honest talk with Boy B and make it clear you're not interested in him like that. Tell him straight up his comments about you and Boy A make you uncomfortable. Set some boundaries - don't let him guilt you into including him all the time. If he can't handle you two being flirty friends sometimes, that's his problem.
As for group hangs, I'd say stick to them for now but try limiting alone time with just Boy B. If he brings up you'd stay if Boy A was there, just say "Yeah cause we're actually friends. You're acting possessive and it's weird." Don't back down from setting your limits firmly.
Maybe also have a talk with Boy A, let him know the situation so you're both on the same page dealing with Boy B's antics. You gotta stand your ground, don't let this loser ruin your vibes! Hopefully he'll get the hint and chill eventually. But you don't deserve to feel uncomfortable - put yourself first here.
not an advice to you but if he had any self-respect inside he would long since gave you the middle finger and cut ties with the 2 of you but looks like he is obsessed.
no seriously i rather have enemies who wants me dead instead of having a friendship like yours, at least i would have my fate in my hands.
How about you and the guy you like just stop playing games and being chicken shit millennials who can't commit to each other. Just become girlfriend and boyfriend already. Then tell the other guy you're now a couple and he will stop bothering you.
you right my bad. lmao