I have a guy best friend/coworker who I recently developed feelings for a couple of months ago. Basically to sum it up I asked him if he liked me after I was told he did and his behaviour was pointing in that direction, we hung out, he bought me food, we flirted, he drove me home etc. He told me he didn’t and then proceeded to ask me and wanting to be honest I said I did but I didn’t want it to ruin our friendship. He said he didn’t want to lose me and asked if I was happy being friends and I agreed. We haven’t seen each other since then physically
However since then he is still saying things that suggest otherwise. My manager accused us of being together and he told him he wished it was that way, he texted me wanting to know if I was working and when I said I wasn’t he said our other coworker was lonely and wanted someone to brighten their moods. I have moved on and I do think we still see each other as friends but I don’t know if I should bring it up with him or not?
3 mo
He rejected me…. but why are his actions saying otherwise?
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Yo girl, sounds like this dude is sendin' some mixed signals for real. Let me break it down:
- Buyin' you food, drivin' you home late, the flirtin' - dude was totally feelin' you before you made your move.
- But when you confessed how you felt, he balked. Probably just got scared since you're friends/work together. Spooked him off goin' down that road.
- Now he's sayin' he "wishes" you were together to your boss? And always hittin' you up to see what you're doin'? Come on now.
Seems like he likes the attention you give him, but still unsure if he can fully commit. Or maybe just worried how it'd change things at work, ya feel me?
Honestly sis, I'd talk to him again straight up. Tell him he gotta stop sendin' mixed signals if he's not down - that shit ain't cool.
See how he responds. If he still denyin' feelins but actin' all thirsty, believe his words, not his actions. You deserve a man who'll proudly claim you, boo! Keep your options open 'til he figures it out.
I would say that you should not 100% trust somebody else's outtake of a situation. Some people can just have bubbly or flirty personalities especially if they are single. And they may give signals that you may be picking up because you are or maybe are alone lonely horny so many reasons why you possibly would like him. And sometimes those signals are quite false because maybe that's just his or her personality.
Tons of time I've been in a situation where I've been single a woman has been single kind of flirting with each other or so it seems because if I'm getting flirted with I'm going to flirt back. And I've had other people make the assumption that she likes me. But, obviously if nothing has ever happened that obviously was not true. Because, if she had those same feelings then she would have communicated them in English. Or action. I like action too.
You are reaching. He told you how he felt.