If guys don't reply to messages is it our fault?

[Monalisa77]

Yes

No

[BikingTrail]

nahh sometimes im sleeping, sick, dont feel like talking, busy, wanted to get to know her but just didn't feel like it anymore.. I've not responded because I've just lost interest after a while, but it was nothing she did wrong at all

[Monalisa77]

so u wouldn't bother if she sent a message two months after the flirting occured? even if u didn't give her ur number (got it from a whatsapp group)

[BikingTrail]

it would depend on my interest level at the time really, there was a woman who texted me out of the blue like 8 months after the first date, and I was interested so we talked again, i went out with her again but it didn't really go anywhere. if he doesn't write back it doesn't mean you did anything wrong though

[BikingTrail]

also he might be seeing someone else, or like someone else

[Monalisa77]

we didn't go out, he just started flirting with me randomly out of nowhere, like im supposed to know if i like him straight away? he seemed really keen (its all over my profile ) but he's not been back to the event since, i was toying for ages wether to message him at all as he's not on social media and v private, so it wasn't till i spoke to someone who knew hiim who said itd be fine that i did it, i wouldn't have had the guts to do it without checking, and its frustrating noone who knows him can tell me if he got it (as if they said hed got it and just cba with it, then at least id know)

[Monalisa77]

when i sent it, the person i asked if it was ok to send it said he was single. even if he wasn't interested anymore, a thanks for the message would be sufficent enough. its not coming back to the event and stuff that happened makes it seem weird

[Lionman95]

No unless your message isn´t rude or offensive it´s his fault.

[JW3660]

Depends. I generally respond back really quick. The only time I wouldn't would be if I felt they were trying to pursue something I didn't know if I wanted to pursue, sleeping, was sick, or doing some other activity or serious thing. Oh, or if they've been playing mind games and I'm done with having to deal with it.

[Monalisa77]

If u made it clear u liked them in person but they didn't respond would u ignore it?

[JW3660]

If I weren't ready for a relationship with them yet, I'd probably ask for some time to think about it then get back to them about it. I'd probably also let them know to follow up with me in a couple days if I haven't said anything by that point. If I felt like something was there, I'd message back as soon as I was able. I've usually been the one who liked the person and they've generally just never initiated any texts in the first place or kept conversations going over text so I'd feel like they weren't into me in the first place.

[Monalisa77]

Does it matter how long ahead the message was sent?

[JW3660]

What do you mean by this? Like how long ago a "message" was sent that you liked the guy? Or like time between messages?

If it's the first one, if it isn't an immediate no, it's basically a toss up in the air at that point. Circumstances may find that you being around them allows you and the guy to get close and the guy is drawn to you anyway. But It could be the other way around that they've got some sort of emotional baggage or are looking for other excuses to either end it or start something. So time varies. It could be anywhere from a couple days to years depending on the guy. Many guys are dense or can't or don't want to have to pick up on mind games so a straight forward flirtatious is the best way to get their attention that you like them. Guy's don't want to have to be told straight up (generally) that you like them either. We want to get it ourselves the best we can. Toss in a flirtatious remark with a winky or smirk emoji and if they can pick it up, then I'm sure they'll start reacting similarly.

On the second one, guys generally prefer to message back and forth to the point where they don't need to feel like if they don't send a message or initiate a conversation, they won't ever hear from you again. This could be a couple texts a day to reassure us but anything longer than a day or two (without reasonable cause) feels like we're not important enough to talk to--so keep that in mind.

[NathanDavis]

try not to blame yourself for the actions of others...

[Jamie05rhs]

No. It's not your fault. It's their fault.

[Jhonrembo36]

No. Sometimes he plays games 🤔😂

[eagle1951]

no could be busy

[Monalisa77]

Was 3 months ago lol

[roy_ricky09]

Depends