Current guy I’m seeing calls me a good girl when I tell him I can’t stop thinking about him?

[Anonymous]

what does this mean and how to I respond to something like this?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, getting called a "good girl" doesn't really sit right with me. Makes it seem like he's talking to you like a pet or something.

I'd probably call him out politely, like "hey just so you know, I don't really vibe with being called a good girl. Makes me feel weird." See what he says.

Hopefully it was just a slip up on his part. But pay attention to how he reacts - if he gets all defensive and doesn't apologize or acknowledge your feelings, that would be a red flag.

A respectful guy will care about your comfort levels and not use terms that make you uncomfortable. He should want an equal partnership, not to treat you like a subordinate.

Personally I like complimenting a girl by saying sweet things about her personality or the connection you have. Not labeling her with some odd term, y'know?

Definitely worth a chat to get on the same page about how you both wanna be talked to in the relationship. Communication and respect are important!

[Danny_dan92]

He’s a dom

[Asker]

So every time I show my affection to him, it’s a sign to him that I’m submitting? And all I get in return is a praise for it

[Danny_dan92]

Yeah basically

[Asker]

How can I use this to my advantage? To discover if he wants something serious or just sex?

[Danny_dan92]

Just ask

[Danny_dan92]

Pay more attention to his actions.

[Anonymous]

To me this is a sexual thing. A good girl is really a girl who does everything he wants her to. For instance I’ve said suck my you know what like a good girl. Its dominance. Now if he’s saying you’re just a good girl, me sing like you’re just a good girl you do everything you’re told by people. It’s like making fun of it, pointing out the fact that you do everything everyone wants. Like oh look Ms Goodie two shoes.

[spartan55]

You should respond by telling him to stop fucking saying that to you. Unless being objectified and degraded is your thing.

[jahaims]

He is into dom/sub