I cheated on my husband, how to prepare him to be single or show him I don’t love him anymore without being mean?

[Anonymous]

•We cannot divorce yet because my bad I invested money in a business and until we are done I warned him that I will divorce him.
•I still feed him because I’m a chef and I love to cook but he thinks it’s out of love.
I ignore him when he comes and tries to share his day or moments because I can’t stand him.
• He’s a good and attractive man.
He killed all my feelings for him. He never defends me when people insults me. One time he insisted me to go to his work reunion and I while his females coworkers were bullying me I asked one of his make friends so has your other work? And he yelled at me by saying “it’s the same what the f you want to say?” My husband was just looking like it’s not my problem and guess who defended me? His boss ended up firing him for his attitude. He never defended me from his family. I love him for being a good friend and supporting me but he just not my type or stands up for me like I had. It’s being many similar episodes were he never defends me.
He will end up alone because I’ve seen how hard it’s for him even though he’s attractive woman he has no game with woman. He’s way to innocent for women but cold to defend me.

[Zestyassmf1997]

If you’re going to divorce him anyway, at this point it may be best to not say anything about the affair. In this situation he doesn’t need to know, it would make no difference, and it would just be rubbing salt in the wounds. Finally, there’s no, “easy way” to break up with him. He’s literally your husband. Those vows, in an ideal world, are a sign that you’re each other’s one and only forever.

[Staximus]

Can you write this again so perks can understand what the hell you are talking about?

"One time he insisted me to go to his work reunion and I while his females coworkers were bullying me I asked one of his make friends so has your other work? And he yelled at me by saying “it’s the same what the f you want to say?” My husband was just looking like it’s not my problem and guess who defended me? His boss ended up firing him for his attitude."

[Asker]

It was an example of how he never defends me. He invited me to his colleagues dinner. So I was trying to make conversation w/ the females but they acted like high school were they just look at you like you’re out of their zone. So , I asked his male coworker, how’s your other job and he replied with a very arrogant attitude and the other females laughed so I got mad and left but my husband was just there looking like it’s none of my business and his boss later fired him because of his arrogant attitude. One time he’s cousin was stepping on my coat on purpose at a party and he was just looking and someone else defended me. You get it? He’s always like that’s none of my business. It’s always me or thank for someone else stepping up for me. He’s just weak.

[Staximus]

The boss fired your husband or the other guy?

[Asker]

The other guy for being rude.

[Staximus]

You should have told your husband it's over before cheating on him

[Billlewis]

Let me first congratulate you for taking control of your life, as well as your sexual being. Does your husband know you've been engaging in extramarital sex?

[Sevenpointfive]

you should cheat with me

[jahaims]

You're a trash human

[Asker]

He cheated on me as well. We’re both the same.
At least I’m honest, he hides it.