Why did he break up with me😢please help?

[ivydavis]

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 6 months. We have been fighting a lot lately but every time we fight he always apologizes and things are good. He was telling me he loved me 2 days before we broke up and saying he wants to fix things. Then the next day we get in a fight and he says sorry but seems like he doesn’t care. Then the next day breaks up with me. This really hurts me bc I do love him and we have broken up before but we always get back together. But this time he has blocked me on everything. He says he wants to be able to live his life and go on more trips w his friends. I know he still loves me bc I could tell it was hard for him to do it. Im just wondering if he will come back or not and how long will it take. Im definitely gonna try and move on and live my life. Just sucks how abrupt and out of no where the ending was. We also spend every single day together and he’s always the one to ask me to hang. How can he love me one day and then not love me the next?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Not trying to sound like the negative Nancy cause Im a dude, it's more like negative joe but either ways I always kinda believed that if a couple break up once, it wasn't meant to be, I also believe if it happened once and people keep pushing then it will happen again, when it comes to emotional attachment I think it's a one time click and if that unfolds at some point enough to turn into a breakup then it just doesn't show the strength of a relationship that will last til death does them apart, in this situation he traded his lover for freedom which one can only assume he felt imprisoned around you and that's not how lovers should feel in a relationship, I have also mentioned before that when people have boundaries and they are broken and the person forgives, it shows weakness and normally extinguished interest depending on the people, it's possible that considering the thought that he's broken up with you before and you took him back, it shows you have a high tolerance for him and his bullshit which he seems to maybe have gotten too comfortable, I wouldn't be surprised if after he does whatever he wanted to do, He will come back expecting you to accept him again, I wouldn't be surprised if the both times he's broken up with you, he had fun elsewhere and crawled to you after, there's a possibility that he's taking advantage of your love for him, with all honesty I hope he doesn't come back or he fucks up so bad he shows his true colors and crosses a boundary you won't forgive, I know it sounds like a shitty thing to say but I genuinely believe your love should go to someone else cause from observing your questions about this guy overtime I don't believe the same amount of love is being returned to you.

[Abhishek4444]

boys and men are more close to their friends and family than their girlfriends it is the first reason and second they have mood swings more in comparison to girls and women and third they don't like the relationship with girlfriend where they don't have the time to be with their friends so talk to him and sort out things he will understand easily

[ivydavis]

Thanks for responding!💗and yeah he had always been a pretty moody guy. And I tried to sort it out and tell him he can spend time w his friends but he says he’s not happy and doesn’t want to be w me anymore:( and now I’m blocked so I can’t even say anything even if I wanted. Do you think he might come back eventually?

[Abhishek4444]

find his address and talk to him as everyone is not lucky as you who got a partner who loves you as in my case I was a one sided lover and got rejected by a girl whom I loved the most and I will remain virgin and unmarried forever and my wish is to be a tree in my next life as nature is greater than all living things

[ivydavis]

I think he would call the police if I went to his house😂he lives with his parents still he’s 20. And I’m sorry to hear that. Just know everything happens for a reason. Don’t let that one girl get you down forever. I’ve felt the same way about someone and now I’m on here complaining about a completely different guy. Put yourself out there! There is someone for everyone I promise you that! Stay positive💖

[Abhishek4444]

I don't believe that as life is much hard for me no money no success no education no grades no skills I want to take Sanyas and want to go Himalaya and will die there only as everything is just a illusion

[ivydavis]

As long as you have a good heart you can definitely find someone. And in the mean time maybe work on yourself to become better for the kind of woman you want. No use in drowning in the grief. There’s a lot of life to live and we only have one!

[Abhishek4444]

I failed in class 12 thrice and I can't remember a single word what I have read 100 times a day

[Abhishek4444]

I am 20 years old Indian boy from Maharashtra state of India I am fed up with this ugly life and want to die soon as possible

[Abhishek4444]

I will only get the job of waiter I know I am happy that I will get the job

[ivydavis]

You are only 20. That is so so young. You can still do whatever you want. Try getting someone to help you with school work. Or if schools not your thing then you can make plenty of money doing other things. At least in America. Maybe you just hate India. Maybe move into a new environment so you can thrive. Sometimes the plant doesn’t grow because the soil is poison!

[Abhishek4444]

I am obsessed with Japan due to Anime since my childhood so I wish I can live in Japan but I don't have money to do so

[Okayokkk]

Having multiple break ups within six months is crazy. There shouldn’t be any fighting until way later in the relationship. There’s nothing to fight about so early on. it sounds like it was toxic and he did you a favour.


Let him go. the right man is not gonna ditch you that quickly. you won’t fight with the right man that soon in a relationship and when there are fights, there’s no yelling or disrespecting it’s a discussion.


There’s better out there. He doesn’t care enough to keep you be a good enough man for you. Guys will never give up or do anything to ruin your relationship when they really love you.

[ivydavis]

Ugh it just sucks bc he was fighting so hard for our relationship literally just a week earlier. Makes me feel so confused how someone’s feelings can change so fast:(

[Okayokkk]

I hear you. It does sound a bit strange and sudden. Let yourself grieve, you’ll be over him before you know it.

[ivydavis]

Thank you so much💖

[Billlewis]

The only reason I can think of is that he's lost his mind.

[andre-48]

The sign was there. You just simply were not getting along. Yet alone if you had broken up previously that is another sign you guys were not going to last

[MrZameer]

Sorry to hear