This happens to me quite frequently with neighbors, coworkers etc. When I walked once past a group of coworkers who were already chatting I didn't bother to greet them since I only greet people I established eye contact and I didn't want to interrupt them. After I walked by I overheard a guy I was on friendly terms with commenting that I was ignoring them. Why do people take it so personally that I don't come up and join them?
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Why do some people get offended when I don't strike a conversation with them?
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Often when people make a comment about something its not over one thing its that they are noticing a pattern. And use one example to make mention of the pattern. There is something else going on. Maybe they feel you only talk to people when they talk to you first. Maybe they want more warmth from you. I don't know. Don't have enough info.
I did make small talk with the guy a few times but I never joined him for lunch when he asked me and he disappointedly said "its always the same with you" once. He is usually nice and supportive of me. I'm just a working student so I didn't assume coworkers at the age of 40+ would want to spend time with me
Well you can be however you want to be. But yea a lot of people find other people make something feel better. Like when I was at a boring job. Laughing and connecting with my coworkers made the day better. When I was on a shift with a colleague who just didn't want to engage. It felt worse. This is the same with a lot of life. Same with housemates. I had a housemate who was pleasant enough. But she wasn't interested in really spending time with us or connecting much. It was okay. But life was definitely better with the housemate I could have a few wines with at the end of the day and laugh and chat for a while. You don't have to be like this. But a lot of people will want this from you. If you don't want to be like this in general. Then hold strong to your boundaries and values and don't let others push you into being like this.
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