Why do some men get embarrassed when someone asks them if they have a girlfriend?

[silver575]

I have seen some men get really embarrassed when someone asks about their relationship status like whether they have a girl or not. I wonder why?

[Anonymous]

I am thinking of asking the one or two sort of women friends either to set me up or even just keep an eye out for some potential.


I’m terrible with women. Ok, I’m terrible at the beginning stages. I’m good once I’m in one (if she isn’t just a steady stream of red flags herself). I’m also not proud of the idea that I can’t attract anyone for a first date. Not proud of how sparse my dating life has been, and how my relationships have been crappy and very short. It’s embarrassing as it does affect other areas… or how I’m perceived in those areas. Like there is a lot of things majorly wrong with me for not having a girlfriend. No perceived competition makes me seem as ugly and worthless. I’m not exactly excited to tell people I am failing at everything (that’s how they will see things, anyway). Because if I had a good job and made great money and wasn’t dating, that would be very odd… or that I could talk to women and I looked ok, then I’m sure SOMEONE would have come along by now, and the fact I am single is proof of some glaring huge flaw in everything. I’d rather not be promoting that idea, whether wrong or not.

[Anonymous]

I am thinking of asking the one or two sort of women friends either to set me up or even just keep an eye out for some potential.


I’m terrible with women. Ok, I’m terrible at the beginning stages. I’m good once I’m in one (if she isn’t just a steady stream of red flags herself). I’m also not proud of the idea that I can’t attract anyone for a first date. Not proud of how sparse my dating life has been, and how my relationships have been crappy and very short. It’s embarrassing as it does affect other areas… or how I’m perceived in those areas. Like there is a lot of things majorly wrong with me for not having a girlfriend. No perceived competition makes me seem as ugly and worthless. I’m not exactly excited to tell people I am failing at everything (that’s how they will see things, anyway). Because if I had a good job and made great money and wasn’t dating, that would be very odd… or that I could talk to women and I looked ok, then I’m sure SOMEONE would have come along by now, and the fact I am single is proof of some glaring huge flaw in everything. I’d rather not be promoting that idea, whether wrong or not.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Because people would question why he's single or some might make fun of him for it. Social anxiousness at the ready to be experienced (not fun).

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Some feel guilty because they are trying to cheat on their girlfriend with you?

[Anonymous]

Because for some guys it comes off as embarrassing (and insulting) if they have to openly say they don’t. You are inadvertently (or even intentionally) pointing out they are lacking something.

This is a typical nasty dirty “below the belt” tactic used by women to disparage men they don’t like regardless if the man did anything to them or not. You may not mean it that but most single guys have slighted by women who really do mean it that way at some point.

Anyway the choice to be in a relationship is voluntary for most women as long as they are at least semi attractive. Not so for men (when all else is equal). It’s a lot harder for most men unless they are in the top 1 percent. Reason being most women hope and expect to “date up” due to hypergamy.

If you don’t believe men then why are 63% of men 19-30 single right now?

https://thehill.com/blogs/blog-briefing-room/3868557-most-young-men-are-single-most-young-women-are-not/

[ManOnFire]

Because if a guy is single he is worried about how people will view him. Guys who have girlfriends don't mind being asked that - in fact they like people knowing they got a girl. But as you know, single men tend to be more scrutinized for being single, and not just from women but other guys as well.

[JacobJordan]

Because most guys are not used to getting attention it is already rare enough. When we have a girlfriend or a wife it is even worse because we are only used to receiving attention from our SO. So it is quite uncomfortable. I don't have this issue more because I don't read into questions I just answer them. So if someone asked me I would just say yes.

[SotiCoto]

I think a lot of men probably like to try and present as more of a caveman alpha-male type than they actually are. It is kinda funny in a pathetic way.
But this is just an outside guess since I'm a cat and I'm not subject to that sort of nonsense.

[Anonymous]

I could care less. I never understood this I’m an attractive guy. Late 20s. Almost 30. Nothing is wrong with me,
I've had more girlfriends in the past than you have toes and fingers

I get asked if I’m married a lot. most people are shocked when they find out I’m not.

being single has its advantages. You still have the power to be able to pick,
your life is not started. And even over yet.

it’s just a matter of time before I cross paths with the one.

[MrOracle]

Because some men feel like this is a proxy question for "are you able to attract a girlfriend?" - in other words, that it's her judging him.

[Drew-1990]

Because when you are single some people think there is something wrong with you, especially the older you get.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I don't understand that. Yes or no I'm not going to be embarrassed.

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes I used to when I was in highschool. I didn’t have a girlfriend and hadn’t even kissed a girl yet. So when they asked I felt like a loser and that’s why I felt embarrassed. Does that make sense?

[ProbablyClueless]

Because men generally don't talk about personal stuff like that.

[Yannae]

I just get annoyed if it's some someone I don't really get along with. The "Oh can I meet her?". No, no you can not.

[Surely]

Either they don’t want to admit that they are Girlfriend-less or they think that you are interested in them. Wondering how they could do you and the girlfriend at the same time!

[DreamLife7]

When people ask you why you're unmarried and have no kids are u embarrassed?

[andreasderjuengere]

It's perhaps because they don't know the answer to this question.

[catsmemoir]

I suppose it would depend on who was asking and what I perceived their intentions to be

[Heolurt]

I don't get embarrassed, I do get annoyed by the question especially when people can see my face. It's a face that's kept me alone my entire life.

[zagor]

I don't know. I haven't for ages and I don't care who knows.

[Anonymous]

oh... after knowing that I'm married. u could stop talking to me or be friend that I used to be earlier

[AviatorTom]

Probably because they don't have one.

[FlatTech26]

Different culture have different conditioning