Guys what are 3 of your red flags and 3 of your green flags?

[Anonymous]

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2 mo

I'm asking what are YOUR red and green flags. Not what are red and green flags in a partner

[WhiteSteve]

For myself? Hmm…

Red:

-Violent and explosive temper, lmfao, never towards women, but they still hate to see it…. like I may get locked up during our relationship😅😂 That’s probably not super, haha

- If you’re looking for professional ambition, I ain’t the guy. Working is the biggest goddamn scam they ever pulled over on us. I’d rather live in the wild and chase my dinner down, hit or miss, then have the rest of the day to myself than live in our fabricates 9-5 (if you’re lucky) society. I do NOT “buy in” to the prescribed program. I refuse to believe our true purpose in life is meant to be slaving away as a worker bee in the name of a national economy and be a generator of GDP. Absolutely nothing natural about that. I can make my living in the world, but I’m looking to climb ladders. I got my money straight in my 30s, so I’m downshifting now. If you give a shit about professional titles and basing a person’s value on what they do for a living, I’m definitely not for you, and you definitely aren’t for me. I’m too evolved for that bullshit, lmfao

-I can be pretty stubborn. Like if I don’t want to do something, I’m just not going to do it. There’s no discussion, no debate, no drama on my end…. I just flatly refuse. And nothing will budge me off of that decision.

Green:

- I’m a gentleman in the old school style. I’m extremely courteous, to her or anyone we encounter. I know how to treat a lady properly and with respect and care. Above all else, I want any woman in my company to feel comfortable, respected, and safe. I will never let anything bad happen to her on my watch.

- I dress very well , take good care of myself, and have excellent hygiene. Might be a red flag actually, because I can out-dress HER if I want to😂 If you want to roll up to an event with an impeccably dressed and groomed gentleman, I’m your guy. I probably have more and better shoes than her, lmao. FRESH. TO. DEATH.

- My overall green flag honestly is that I can be as hard or soft as a situation requires (hey-OOOOOO😏😂). An excerpt from what my girlfriend wrote to me in my Valentine’s card this year: “You are the perfect balance of soft and hard. You are a man written by a woman. You are smart, kind, patient, tough, strong, sexy, hot, funny…the list goes on and on. You make me feel heard, valued, seen, and loved. You are my safe space (lol), my home, and my heart.” That meant a lot to me, and I’d tend to agree on a lot of it, honestly, not to be cocky, but just self-confident. A lady could do a WHOLE hell of a lot worse than this guy, despite my flaws.

[WhiteSteve]

*but I’m not looking to climb ladders

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I think for my red flags trying to assess myself as critically as I can:

- Love of thrills and risk-taking (my wife had to accept my love of extreme sports, although I've toned it down over the years; still I just recently sprained my ankle doing vert skateboarding when I bailed from a backside air onto the flatbottom).

- Spontaneous and poor at long-term planning.

- Can be extremely stubborn and impossible to control. The two times my exes gave me an ultimatum trying to coerce me to do something while holding the relationship hostage, I metaphorically shot the hostage and instantly broke up with them. I can be reasoned with, negotiated with, but cannot be controlled. I have zero tolerance for coercion.

Perhaps my green flags:

- Extremely open communicator. I communicate my thoughts and feelings very deeply and openly and into soul-sharing conversations. Women seem to particularly like my communication qualities in person (although I am horrible at texting and writing and very long-winded there).

- Extremely difficult to upset. I don't get upset or angry very easily. While I'm far from a Zen Buddhist monk or Stoic sage, I'm much more difficult to upset and much more cheerful than the average person and the very few times I do get upset or angry, it only lasts for the shortest amount of time (minutes, not hours).

- Deeply trusting and not at all controlling. Just as I am allergic to being controlled, I am also allergic to controlling other people.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

My biggest red flag before until the end of last year is that I was a heavy drinker. I've since quit alcohol completely though.

[ManOnFire]

Very cool question. Let me see... I'll start with red:

• In real life I have a tendency to talk too much about something really deep or passionate that I think about often, to the point where the other person can get silent. I have been working on fixing this a lot more though.
• I am a hell of a flirt and have to keep it in check. Most women don't mind it too much but you always have some who take it too seriously and get uncomfortable.
• There is another one, but don't want to say that out loud.

My green flags:

• I am a real and honest person, very transparent, and my intentions towards most people are good. But I am the type that if you try to screw me over, I won't let you get away with it.
• I am very wise with money. You really don't need a financial advisor.
• When I really love a woman in a relationship, I love who she is. I love the person. It's not just about moments, what she looks like, or fleeting feelings.