It's not the winning that "upset" him. She was obviously more skilled. But he felt entitled to respect merely for being a man and that is just fucking wrong.
You respect the skill and craft, be they man, woman, or child. He just had not learned that lesson yet. It's why he got laughed at, as he may be an adult, but not a mentally mature one.
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It's unfortunate that some individuals struggle to accept defeat, regardless of their opponent's gender. In some cases, it might stem from societal stereotypes and expectations that dictate men should always be physically dominant. However, it's important to remember that skill and experience are what determine outcomes in sports like Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, not gender. Keep demonstrating your talent and let your performance speak for itself.
Exactly most people dont realize Bjj is not about strenght..
Anonymous
(25-29)
2 mo
Ego maybe. It’s not that big of a deal. Get up and try harder. But I mean. You kinda seemed easily offended yourself based off your post…. I guesss the same reason you got offended. Ego…
Instead of being mad. Maybe he could come to you for advice and a mentor
you're right i Also made a mistake... If i would not be offended i would just go easier and it could be normal sparring... But at least i didn't make a scene in front of whole club 😅 and yeah he could i Can teach him a lot..
Some people think that girls are powerless, they think that they are very strong and the person in front of them is powerless, he tries to show his own strength in this way, the important thing is that these people do not raise themselves here, if a girl beats me, I make that girl a crown and pray for the development of sports as well
Its the toxic male ego and conditioning. Glad you taught him a lesson. He will not be forgetting that anytime. Maybe if he was nice and respectful you might have actually been mindful about him being new to it and you having the size and strength and experience advantage. But he was disrespectful towards you so he kind of asked for it.
Exactly i would never try to embaress him or beat him just to feel good if he was respectful... Rh could learn something from me and get better this way... So you think it was right what i did?
It never bothered me, but I hated sparring with girls because I would go easy (which is what you're supposed to do. You're supposed to be helping each other get better, not trying to kill each other) but women wouldn't hold back, at all. Very annoying
Men clearly destroy women in sports which is something people apparently can’t understand. Not sure why men care If they lose to girls in any other aspect. Women/girls are always the weaker sex. That won’t change.
Well man are better in sports and everyone Can understand that i think 😂😂 Well we are weaker sex but im personally stronger than most man thats what makes some guys angry 😂
A lot of girls are deemed fragile and a lot of girls actually are. You hear all this talk about girls not having as much testosterone and so on. You get really angry when you are supposed to have a biological edge and still lose. To you it feels like you must be really bad, if you are supposed to be stronger and still lose. I have never done BJJ, but from what I know it's all about skill and strength plays a role (it always does) but not as much as in for example boxing.
It's hard for them to lose to anyone; it's an ego thing. Some guys (it's common, but I don't know if it's common enough that I would say "most" guys are like this) have this weird competitiveness.
Not everyone sees it like it is. Luckily your friends at the gym acknowledge your talent as it is and not treat you differently because you're a girl. Unfortunately you will always have those men who can see a woman on top.
I actually dont care if they are trained or not... Even if they are smaller and weaker relationship is not about that... But their insecurities won't let them to date someone like me.. m
I guess it is all about confidence. If a man have self-confidence that kind of things are never a problem for him but he doesn't have self-confidence then he can act like a baby
If you are new to fighting, you can learn from anyone. It is good to lose and gain experience. Confidence is good, but not for a beginner as most likely you'll not be good as an experienced person
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It's not the winning that "upset" him. She was obviously more skilled. But he felt entitled to respect merely for being a man and that is just fucking wrong.
You respect the skill and craft, be they man, woman, or child. He just had not learned that lesson yet. It's why he got laughed at, as he may be an adult, but not a mentally mature one.
It's unfortunate that some individuals struggle to accept defeat, regardless of their opponent's gender. In some cases, it might stem from societal stereotypes and expectations that dictate men should always be physically dominant. However, it's important to remember that skill and experience are what determine outcomes in sports like Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, not gender. Keep demonstrating your talent and let your performance speak for itself.
Exactly most people dont realize Bjj is not about strenght..
Ego maybe. It’s not that big of a deal. Get up and try harder. But I mean. You kinda seemed easily offended yourself based off your post…. I guesss the same reason you got offended. Ego…
Instead of being mad. Maybe he could come to you for advice and a mentor
you're right i Also made a mistake... If i would not be offended i would just go easier and it could be normal sparring... But at least i didn't make a scene in front of whole club 😅 and yeah he could i Can teach him a lot..
Some people think that girls are powerless, they think that they are very strong and the person in front of them is powerless, he tries to show his own strength in this way, the important thing is that these people do not raise themselves here, if a girl beats me, I make that girl a crown and pray for the development of sports as well
Its just dumb if he really thought that... How Can you think someone bigger and more experienced will be powerless?😅
That's how some people didn't raise themselves
Male ego. Just like women hate losing too. It's all about ego, when it comes to the human being.
How to put it aside, is the tough part. Sometimes you just have to sort of say to yourself, you know what, it's not worth it, maybe they're worse off
Everyone hates losing but he should control his emotions...
Its the toxic male ego and conditioning. Glad you taught him a lesson. He will not be forgetting that anytime. Maybe if he was nice and respectful you might have actually been mindful about him being new to it and you having the size and strength and experience advantage. But he was disrespectful towards you so he kind of asked for it.
Exactly i would never try to embaress him or beat him just to feel good if he was respectful... Rh could learn something from me and get better this way... So you think it was right what i did?
Any other tough opponent would probably not hold back against him. He kind of asked for it. He should accept the consequences.
Yeah he needs to learn to lose..
Exactly!
It never bothered me, but I hated sparring with girls because I would go easy (which is what you're supposed to do. You're supposed to be helping each other get better, not trying to kill each other) but women wouldn't hold back, at all. Very annoying
Well thats exactly what happened it was just reversed 😅 do you think i should have go easier?
Yeah. It should always be light sparing regardless of gender.
Men clearly destroy women in sports which is something people apparently can’t understand. Not sure why men care If they lose to girls in any other aspect. Women/girls are always the weaker sex. That won’t change.
Well man are better in sports and everyone Can understand that i think 😂😂 Well we are weaker sex but im personally stronger than most man thats what makes some guys angry 😂
A lot of girls are deemed fragile and a lot of girls actually are. You hear all this talk about girls not having as much testosterone and so on. You get really angry when you are supposed to have a biological edge and still lose. To you it feels like you must be really bad, if you are supposed to be stronger and still lose. I have never done BJJ, but from what I know it's all about skill and strength plays a role (it always does) but not as much as in for example boxing.
It's hard for them to lose to anyone; it's an ego thing. Some guys (it's common, but I don't know if it's common enough that I would say "most" guys are like this) have this weird competitiveness.
Personally I’m ok with a girl pinning me on the mat. I take no shame in losing. I only take shame in not trying.
Has it ever happened to you?
No… never had the opportunity to lose to a girl. Not in physical events. In academic events I have taken loses to girls.
With an ass like that I can see why they let themselves lose, what single man wouldn't pretend to struggle under that bum lol
go like "too much butt power 😵"
Trust me he really tried 😅 and Also he wasn't Happy that he was under me.. m
I don't understand why lol
He wanted to win and he got destroyed... He didn't care about anything except his ego
Ego is a dangerous thing smh
Uhm, to me it looks like you want to be in these situations, so you instigate them. That’s your kink controlling you. 🧐
I didn't instigate anything anything it wasn't even my Choice to fight him... But i have a bit of kink ngl 😅
"... so i decided to not go easy."
Means, you instigated it. Because of your kink.
Yeah maybe you're right 😅 but i really didn't want this...
Not everyone sees it like it is. Luckily your friends at the gym acknowledge your talent as it is and not treat you differently because you're a girl. Unfortunately you will always have those men who can see a woman on top.
Yeah most guys know i Can hold my own against most guys..
And that is all that matters. Ignore the nay sayers and haters...
I do 😊
'I was beaten by a girl' trope, it's big shame because men should be stronger than women.
Why should they? 😅 I know its like that ussualy but you're also not stronger than top female powerlifters 😅 so whats the shame about it?
That's why I would not compet with them but actually losting to a girl is big shame.
allthetropes.org/wiki/Know_When_to_Fold%27Em
I Can see you're the kind of guy in trained with 😅 its not a shame with some training almost all guys Can get better than me 😅
Maybe but it's an if, but yea man who date woman like you should training a lot. :)
allthetropes.org/wiki/All_Amazons_Want_Hercules
I actually dont care if they are trained or not... Even if they are smaller and weaker relationship is not about that... But their insecurities won't let them to date someone like me.. m
Man should be stronger than woman, at least than his woman, that's why they insecure.
Its just a stereotype he dont have to be stronger...
Men are the stronger sex, it a fact, not just stereotype, a weak man is not real man.
And another stereotype 😂 weak man Can be ten times bigger man than a strong guy just becouse of personality
We dont live in Cave anymore its not about strenght anymore...
Strength is male pride, sensitive guys tend to be emasculated by amazon women.
allthetropes.org/wiki/Sensitive_Guy_and_Manly_Man
I can't disagree with that 😅
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https://www.youtube.com/embed/e2xvGV7k1swI guess it is all about confidence. If a man have self-confidence that kind of things are never a problem for him but he doesn't have self-confidence then he can act like a baby
He clearly had 0 confidence than 😂
Yeah most probably, I am very glad you squished him like a bug❤
The same reason why you couldn't rise above his foolish comments. Ego...
If you are new to fighting, you can learn from anyone. It is good to lose and gain experience. Confidence is good, but not for a beginner as most likely you'll not be good as an experienced person
Exactly 😊 i didn't have any confidence as a beginner and lost most of the time but it teached me a lot
totally agree
His ego got the better of him.
My reaction if a gal would get me to tap out: