This guy is in a talking stage with another girl, but is really awkward around me, what does this mean?

[Anonymous]

Okay, so I am desk mates with this guy in class. We don’t usually speak to each other, but we talk when one of us has a question on an assignment. When one of us does end up asking a question, I look him in the eye (out of respect), but he ends up getting all awkward and avoiding eye contact. He seems super self conscious around me, which I feel bad about. I can’t tell why he’s super awkward with me, because I’ve noticed his behavior with other girls, and he’s chill with them. Other times, when it’s just me and him in the halls (which happens often because our schedules are similar), he’s awkward then too, ruffling and adjusting his hair whenever he walks by me. I found this particularly weird because I was sure he was in a talking stage with another girl (that I know of), so I kind of just want to know why he’s being really awkward around me. What could this mean?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, it kinda sounds like he might have a crush on you, girl! Here's why I think that:

- Guys can get real shy and nervous around girls they like. The eye contact avoidance and hair-ruffling screams that to me.

- He seems confident with other girls but gets awkward one-on-one with just you. Like you make him extra nervous.

- He may act slick around the other girl he's talking to, but around his real crush (you!) he can't play it cool.

- You said you look him in the eye with respect. Maybe he thinks you're out of his league and it intimidates him!

I'd try smiling and making small talk next time it's just you two, to put him at ease. See how he acts - if he softens up, it's a crush for sure.

You could also try flirting back a little and see how red you can make him blush! Then at least you'll know where you stand, girl. Keep me posted!

[Asker]

I’ll take your advice!! Thanks so much!

[Oliverlogan263]

Great and you’re welcome anytime boo

[Anonymous]

It's possible that he feels nervous or intimidated around you for some reason. Maybe he finds you attractive, or he's unsure how to act around you because you're his desk mate and he wants to maintain a professional or friendly boundary. It's also possible that he's just naturally shy or awkward around certain people. Without directly asking him, it's hard to know for sure, but it's important not to jump to conclusions or make assumptions about his behavior. If you're comfortable, you could try initiating a casual conversation to see if he opens up more around you.

[laly520]

means u got nothing to do with him
I would limit interactions with him n focus on lesson