Do you like funny or serious men/women?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I have always liked serious men, but my guy friend asked me a very interesting question the other day

“If you like these serious men - who’s going to make you laugh?”

That’s a good question- There are guys who make me laugh all the time, but why do I still like serious men?

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So I always have funny guy friends and they make me laugh to tears when I am stressed out by those serious men.

I wonder, why not go for funny men instead? But I feel more attracted and curious to the serious ones.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

My wife isn't the funniest (she actually tends to hilariously copy my jokes and tells them to her friends but messes up the timing and punchline) but she has a huge sense of humor and finds so many things funny.

That works out really well for our case since I enjoy making people laugh if I can (although my sense of humor is a bit out there) and she enjoys laughing.

It's similar with affection. I enjoy giving hugs as an ENFP and she enjoys receiving hugs being INFP.

So when I was single, one of the main things I was looking for were women who could laugh at my silly jokes. That has a functional purpose beyond laughing.

I use humor as a diplomatic tool to ease tension and conflict. For example, if I see two people about to fight each other, first I try to calm them down being a mediator and peacekeeper type but the next thing I try to do to ease their tension is improvise a joke and try to get them both laughing. When they're laughing, they can usually hug and make up.

I rely on that a lot but it doesn't work on very serious types of people who take everything seriously and personally all the time. So I'm allergic to those types of women since my methods of deescalating conflicts and lightening the mood doesn't work on them.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

For me, laughter is the gateway to love and affection as well as the most soulful exchanges that develop the deepest forms of mutual understanding. People who think very differently from me and see humor as a barrier rather than a gateway to love, affection, and deep mutual understanding are thoroughly incompatible with me (not saying they're wrong or anything, just incompatible).

[Alwayreckles93]

😅😅😅😅 Did you two love burds met threw a joke?

[Alwayreckles93]

Birds

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@Alwayreckles93 We ended up meeting at a picnic (Hanami here in Japan). Although it was actually kind of funny when we first met since I was dressed in t-shirt and shorts chugging beers while she wore this fancy dress with fancy wine and cheese. Actually shocked our friends when we started taking interest in each other, especially on her part. "Wait, you like *him*?" 😅

[Alwayreckles93]

How cute! I bet your wife or girlfriend at thebtime was stunning. Wait so she made teh first move?

[Alwayreckles93]

*the I apologies this spell check thing is went off weird and crazy.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@Alwayreckles93 Very much, although I thought she might be a snob in her fancy dress with her fancy wine and cheese. I turned out to be totally wrong there.

It's difficult to tell who made the first move exactly since we just started talking being next to each other. That tended to repeat a lot. We'd hang out with our friends and end up at the edge of the party, like the balcony of a friend's house, talking so much and almost forgetting the party and the rest of our friends until they shouted, "Hey, you two are missing the party!" It just kept repeating like that for almost a year.

Then one day we were in a bar and all of our friends had to leave early that night leaving just the two of us there. So we started dancing (I initiated), then she kissed me (just a peck on the lips, like a tease), then I kissed her back, and then we started dating.

Then our first date was awkward since it's the first time I ever dated such a close friend. So she laughed at my jokes, we shared a lot as usual, but I couldn't figure out when to make any moves since she did that the whole time as a friend. So I was like, "Wait, is she just being friendly or is this my cue to make a move?" I was so confused.

So towards the end of our relatively uneventful date while in the elevator, I just said, "Fuck it!" and jammed the emergency stop button on the elevator and kissed her. Then she kissed me back and we made out in the elevator until the emergency lights went off and it resumed and we were jamming buttons all over the place trying to get the doors to close.

We quickly became an item after that. Now we've been married for 14 years.

[WhiteSteve]

I’m a good times guy, through and through. Being serious is the anti-life, lmao. I have such a hard time understanding and relating to serious people, to be honest. Like loosen your tie and have a beer, figuratively or literally, none of what’s going on is as important as you’re giving it credit for.

Is the seriousness of the serious guys what ultimately leads to it not working out? Sometimes we’re attracted to what isn’t necessarily best for us, haha. I can’t tell you what the point of your life should be, but I like to think one of the points of my life is to laugh as much as a can.

Maybe you should try dating a funny guy. I think we’re a pretty good time, haha. But at the same time…. attraction is attraction, so maybe that’s just not for you, for whatever reason. Maybe you could ideally find a guy who has aspects of both to his personality.

I don’t know, you just kind of have to shop around, you know? You’re young and you have the whole world at your fingertips, so just explore life, this is the time to figure out who you are and what you want for yourself in life👍 And “don’t let perfect be the enemy of good”, everyone will have flaws, and you’ll be waiting a long time if you wait for someone who fits your exact ideal specifications. Anyway, my point is, we all should try all the flavors out and decide which one is the best one for us to hopefully get stuck eating for the rest of our lives, haha

[Alwayreckles93]

I perfer serious guys. I can't stand clown guys. Hard to maintain a conversation with a guy that takes everything as a joke. People call me Kare I don't care I can't stand clownis guys. I dated one way back in the time when I was in highschool good Lord hard to have an enjoyable conversation. How can woman live with a clownish husband seriously.

[whereismyjohnny]

I appreciate a blend of seriousness and humour in men. Someone who can be serious when needed, yet also brings humour.

[RavVid]

Probably you see the male role as doing serious things in life and therefore a better mate. Would you want the bridge you are on to have been designed by a serious man or a funny man?

I tend to like lighthearted women who genteelly poke fun at things.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

What bridge do you mean? I am usually both, funny and serious, so I kind of am a bridge, I’d like someone like me.

[RavVid]

I was thinking of a real bridge when I wrote that. It is not true that engineers don't make jokes, they do. But I tend to make serious jokes which have a point and improve the world.

I hadn't thought of you being a bridge in that way but you are and I agree you are very likeable.

[Rosexøxø]

I love funny. But life demands seriousness. Well the responsibilities and liabilities of society do anyhow.

He has to be intellectually funny like Ryan Reynolds/ Conan/ or Ellen

Or Be able to balance both. Sometimes immature guys are funny and they can’t grasp important topics of responsibility or just understanding the feelings I’ve felt or thoughts I’ve expressed. He and I need to be almost same level or at least contribute to the efforts to live well. Not be a coat-tail rider/ free-loader weight.

[Joshydavid25]

I love goofy women.. Somebody I can joke and have fun with.. Somebody I can roast and who can roast me back.. Or die trying.. LOL..

Well maybe your father or the men in your family was serious or you tie seriousness with masculinity and it helps you feel more protected.

[82lynx]

Having had too much seriousness in my life already, I have little tolerance to drama, even if it’s fictional. I don’t joke all the time, not even close; that would be forcing it anyway. I can come up with good ones occasionally, usually in response to something neutral said by someone else. Having decades worth of pop culture references stacked upstairs helps, as does the occasional mixed metaphor, and using that rare opportunity to sound like a whopping moron. I save it until I can use it to its full potential, and I prefer to use a deadpan delivery.

[menina]

I prefer serious men. I mean, I love laughing and being around people who make me laugh, but I don't like men who are always trying to be funny. I like when they know when it's time to joke and when it's time to be serious.

[Still-alive]

I think personally i would like a good mix but maybe like 70-80% on the funny side and the rest serious. cause i like joking around a lot so lol i would want someone who could play along.

but also those moments where we do gotta be serious we can do so easily.

[lucas262]

Beautiful women are everywhere. Iv seen beauty and iv seen beauty with a sense of humor. Which is much better.

I tried that whole dark serious vibe. I like to think I get to be myself with the right people. Being a fake is too stressful, better to be hated and loved by the right people.

[Sonorous]

I notice I tend to like women who are able to be serious when needed, but still have a funny or goofy bone in them. Can't say that I like one or the other because for me, a nice mix is needed since I tend to have a mix as well.

[Purpleronnie]

Clearly Women don’t cleanly fit into either category but if your asking me what I favour it’s got to be the serious woman. Of course a laugh and a joke are good for the soul but the absence of which one is going to have the biggest negative impact on your relationship?

[DJB72]

Truly funny people make you think and challenge your beliefs. "Serious" people need to lighten up - it's not like any of us is leaving here alive...

[sheikalana]

I like both. My partner is a great mix of a serious man who’s also very funny.

[Slapmynuts]

I love a sense of humor! She doesn't need to be absolutely hilarious but not "stick up the butt" uptight! Lol. Life is stressful enough so I need someone who isn't going to add to that! I'm just talking from the aspect of extreme left or right on this question. If I had to choose one, I would go with funny/humor!;)

[Yannae]

Funny when the moment allows it, serious when she has to be.

[Pinay_ako]

I’m a mix of both. I can make fun of myself at the same I can be serious when needed.

[NathanDavis]

I definitely love a woman that can genuinely be both...

[TrueConfection]

I don't care for loud or obnoxious, so I'd probably pick the serious guy who is calm and soft spoken. However, I do love to laugh together.

[Unit1]

They are both good. Life's just overall more convenient, Enjoyable and easier with the fairly serious Ladies and that's more important to me than making super funny scenes while the ship is sinking and we're on board.

[BLP11520]

Funny women there’s time to be serious but those that are overly serious our dull😐

[StudyingAuthor]

I think funny. I'm always down for any type of sense of humor. Recently, I've been trying to use less sexual jokes tho.

[moneymagnet24]

😂😂😂

[Biancam13]

Funny mostly, but serious the rest of the time. So about 60% funny and 40% serious. I find no better joy than in laughing with someone.