I kittenfished the guy I like... where do I go from this?

[clie208]

Let's call my friend S and my crush M. Basically, I got S to ask M is he was single, M said yes, and S gave M my number and a made-up name. I texted M to tell him that the name wasn't actually real, and we chatted about an assignment. When I refused to tell him my name, he ghosted me. I thought this had blown over already (it's been a week), but apparently M and his friends have been shooting S death glares in the hallway so clearly it hasn't. I don't want M to know that it's me because I'm super ditzy and unhinged around him (he turns my brain to mush), but I simultaneously want to tell him to fix the mess that I have created (and due to the hidden hope that he'll give me a chance). So should I tell him that it's me? If you were M, what would you want me to do? What's the worst thing that can happen, and is it worth the risk?

Tell him!

Keep it hidden

Updates

+1 y

Kittenfishing is when you misrepresent yourself on an online profile, for those who don’t know.

[Iron_Man]

Now what’s the new term kitten finished? Never heard of it in my entire life

[handsomelad70]

I'm 70. PLEASE explain "kittenfishing."

[Iron_Man]

@handsomelad70 that’s what I’m trying to find out. I never heard of it.

[handsomelad70]

You're (presumably) young, Iron_Man. We Boomer geezers don't know Gen Z lingo.

[Iron_Man]

@handsomelad70 you guys are very good at what you do. You’re very intelligent very sharp and you work on computers.

[handsomelad70]

Maybe, but as my parents weren't hip to my sisters' and my slang, nor am I to 2024's youngsters'.

[Iron_Man]

@handsomelad70 well if you want to learn things just keep hanging around the site I have also picked up things too, like ghosting what that means although it’s been around for a while ghosting

[Iron_Man]

@handsomelad70 here’s another new word it’s called gaslighting do you know what that means? I can do a copy and paste for you if you want

[handsomelad70]

"Gaslighting" is from a 1944 movie with (don't hold me to this) Charles Boyer and Claudette Colbert.

[Iron_Man]

@handsomelad70
Gaslighting is a form of manipulation that often occurs in abusive relationships. It is a covert type of emotional abuse in which the bully or abuser misleads the target, creating a false narrative and making them question their judgments and reality.1 Ultimately, the victim of gaslighting starts to feel unsure about their perceptions of the world and even wonder if they are losing their sanity.

[Iron_Man]

Medical gaslighting describes a behavior in which a physician or other medical professional dismisses or downplays a patient's physical symptoms or attributes them to something else, such as a psychological condition

[Anonymous]

Let it go. You are too young for this drama.

[strateguy632]

keep it a secret.

[laly520]

unnecessary drama
move on

[Avicenna]

Fess up….