So my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years now. 10 months in, he cheated big time. And before , he would text girls here and there. After he was caught, it was a disaster (cause he’s a NPD) but he apologized and we worked past it. Now since then, he gets caught here and there commenting on a girls post (last time was almost a year ago), and never flirts with girls through messages. But sometimes if a girl texts him , he will be polite and text back. But I always catch it, as he has allowed me to have access to EVERYTHING. A few days ago he did search “single in N. C.” but he went no further with that. I’m scared maybe he was just thinking about it and had a moment of weakness but stopped himself.
He now allows me to convey my feelings , sometimes getting mad if it’s all the time he also has been making an effort to do nice things but we barely go out anymore ( we live together) he touches me all the time but still doesn’t ask about my day or anything
lately I’ve been a little insecure so I’ve been pushing for answers, and he’s been telling me that he “won’t cheat again , we would just break up and that he has too much to lose” , he also says “he thinks he has grown and has a new outlook on life and what he values in relationships and I bring what he values”
i guess my question is if you guys think the cycle of cheating and devaluing me has stopped and shifted to a more valuable and positive outlook on his part?