My boyfriend doesn't want to be a ninja assassin or anything like that, but he likes playing games. I much rather he enjoy his hobbies than be out doing something stupid like getting drunk, cheating, doing drugs, etc. You knew what he was into when you first started dating, so there's no surprise there. You should accept him or find someone else if you can't look past it. I knew my bfs hobbies early on too and I accepted it. Hhis hobbies are his hobbies and if he's not doing anything wrong, who am I to come between that? He doesn't complain when I engage in my hobbies. Although, my boyfriend works full time, goes to the gym every other day so it's not as drastic as your boyfriend. But I think you should decide if you can accept him for what he likes. It's okay to not like them yourself, but it's part of who he is now and he may or may not "grow out" of video games.
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Ewe.
Does he have a job/career or in college studying to have a job/career?
The assassin thing is weird but as one of my teachers told me, "people never 'grow up', they just learn to shut their mouths at times", honestly just let him be, we all have our quirks, maybe ever join him and see if you like it, it's always cute to see gaming couples and couples doing geeky stuff together
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Why you want to change him? won't it be like alveys? He changed... If you love him accept what he is, inspire him, maybe some martials arts or kendo would be great for him. At 20 we all are still kids, its just how it is. Its way better to be geeky about random stuff than beeing lazy and borring. At 20 you want to look cool not watch some romantic stuff but action. Why would you expect it to be different? Maybe just stit down one day, take paper and pen, and write all on paper, after it you may know better what to do. Im still not shure about wasting time, haven't figured out it, yet. What it means wasting time...
I think it's safe to assume he acted/ dressed this way when you met... so why change him? This is one of the biggest reasons men become fearful of getting into long term relationships. They lose their freedom, they lose their identity, etc. If you're not happy with who he is, move on. Trying to morph him into someone you want him to be will only make the both of you miserable in the long run.
Reading through your responses to options it seems you already know what you should do, you are just scared to do it.
He is not changing and it appears you have gone out of your way to find a middle ground. Stop trying to do that. Continuing will only prolong your suffering.
Break up with him now.
There is no saving this relationship. He is unwilling to change and you don't like the way he is. You will both be better off after you leave him."He already has begun to look like a big kid walking around dressed in too small anime graphic tees/backpacks/shoes."
That part cracked me up 😅 And I doubt he will continue with his video games when he's in university. Unless of course he doesn't study and works in kfc20 is still relatively young. Being into stuff like video games and anime is fine, as long as he is still leaving time for other important stuff (school, work, your relationship, etc.). But wanting to become an assassin (for real) is definitely concerning. He does realize that involves killing people, right?
Lol its totally okay, enjoy it, he is honest with you, he is just 20, its time to explore the world, he will get mature with time nd understand his responsibilities, until then enjoy with him, take part in his interests, try to watch anime nd movies with him, you might like it.
He won't grow up. He likes those things. By expecting him to change you're expecting him to be somebody he's not. I have to admit, I lol'd @ that ninja assassin bit. Honestly, being with somebody with no imagination can be way worse. You just have to decide if these are things you can get past.
Either you like him as he is or you don't. Because people only change if they are willing to do so for themselves.
That assuming that what he's doing is something wrong. I have friends that play a lot and watch anime, and they are happy married with well paid jobs.He won't change that much.
When I was a kid, old guys who were retired like sat around playing cards and liked john wayne. You know what those guys liked when they were 20? cards and john wayne.
A -lot- of men my age still play video games, those that don't generally don't have time, as opposed to 'stopped playing them'.Lmao. He's probably not going to stop short of something that really shakes up his mindview. If you haven't grown out of ninja assassin dreams by your 20s, you're prob never going to. You should just cut your losses and dip out before your relationship gets really toxic because you both have vastly different sets of priorities and can't reconcile them.
Perhaps you're leaving something out. Does he have autism?
I have autism, and I know many others with autism.
An autistic interest can drastically affect someone's lifestyle.
If he is autistic though, you should discuss your issues with a psychologist instead of strangers on the net. Couple-therapy can helpWhen will girls finally "grow up" and accept, that hobbies aren't restricted to a certain age range?
Or move on if something in their relationship isn't working out after communicating didn't help. Or accepting their partner as ít is.He's still young, let him live
Nobody should have to be forced to act like an adult because someone else wants them to
As long as he's not hurting anyone leave him be
Maybe you should break up with him and find someone more like yourself.
And he can find a female ninja assassin lolI’m sorry but I don’t get it. First of all he is 20 years old, he is still a kid. Second of all what’s the problem in playing videogames? Some people after work like to read books, others listen to music, others watch movies and some even play video games. Some video games are masterpieces with incredible stories, way better stories than a lot of the crap we see on theatres.
that probably will get annoying after awhile but i'd rather date someone like that than some guy always at the bar or clubs that drinks on weekends.
Dump him. You can watch anime and play videogames and be an adult at the same time.
But wanting to be an assassin (or worse "ninja assassin" ) is childish.Well you knew the kinda things he was interested in when you started dating him and if you didn't you've had 6 months to learn. If he isn't your type then leave him. There are girls who love gamers so maybe he needs to find one of them.
Boys don't "grow up," they just get bigger. Also, have you considered joining him in the things he is passionate about?
He is just a geek/nerd, I am too, but not that extreme. He is just having fun, acting like you care/enjoy it might make him really happy.
Hahahah oh god, he’s supposed to be holding you down, not holding you back
Cut ittt
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