So my boyfriend said that I am TOO sensitive because i got scared of his behaviour and started crying and wanted to go home nearly running:
-I woke up and twice I saw him sitting on the sofa looking concerned with a metal bed leg (like 40 cm long and 6 cm thick) and when i asked what was he doing he said:"dont worry its not for you"
-when i was crying rushing home, he grabbed his phone and wanted to vall police on me for domestic abuse.
-once accused me i hacked his phone made pictures on his phone. Sent email and messages because he didn't remember him doing that.
-asked me if i ever stole anything from him
-accused me of maning a copy of his keys and stealing his SIM
- just randomly would say he doesn't feel comfortable and safe around me
Everytime his behaviour freaked me out he blamed for being too sensitive and crying to make him feel guilty
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You sound both immature and ridiculous... a good match?
Ok whatever
Stay away from that guy unless you want him smashing your head in with that metal stick. He's either crazy or on drugs or both. Stay away from him. Never see him again.
Call his parents if you know them and tell him he needs a psychological evaluation
Do not go to his house again
Why he grabbed that metal stuff?
He assures he never will hurt me
Love aside, why are you in this relationship? Is there anything positive coming from this situation other than glaring red flags and destruction?
Our relationship is typical and normal
He said paranoia is part of him
Sometimes drugs
Trust your gut, don’t gaslight yourself. The fact you ran away in fear and tears should say a lot about how healthy this relationship is for you. Or how bad it could come to be.
He stopped me
And said i need to calm down becaue he cannot let me go like this
Because people may think he did something to me
And because i could do something to him
I was like what i m gonna do to you?
I was about to home!!!
He doesn't want neighbours see me crying or once he even said i must control my hand movements because people will think we fight
He doesn't want people see im sad
Doesn’t that make you wonder what his exes experienced? He sounds afraid of anyone seeing anything because they have before..
I dont know his past with other women
But i was strange when he said:stop moving your hands so much, people will think we are fighting
I was confused since i move hands a lot while talking we were not arguing
Makes me wonder if the neighbors have seen they before. You don’t know about his past with other women but if I were you I’d be doing research.
Think he is abusive?
Quite possibly😞
Saw him smoke crack
Confronted him
He said its him its what he is
And now i saw his true self
Now i finally know whete paranoia comes from
He saidhe would undersant if i leave him because what he does its not right but its the last thing he wants
Because he doesn't want to lose me or our relationship
Wtf do i do now?
You do the smart thing and leave him. This man uses hard drugs, definitely gets paranoid (idc wtf he says), and acts out. You ran away crying in fear because you saw his true nature without the rose colored glasses, without the veil. He can’t keep up the good guy act forever and you are starting to see it. I would care the absolute most about my safety, stop gaslighting myself because the feelings are valid, and leave this guy before he can do anything worse. You don’t have to stick it out or make it work, that’s just unnecessarily chaining yourself to a person.
He sending me messages he loves me i worth it he is amazed to have such good normal girlfriend who cares about him
Asked for time to leave drugs
But i dont believe
Whn i was scared and wanted to go hime he said im too sensitive acting hysterical
So he grabbed the phine to call police
Bevaue he thought id go out and do something to harm him
He also said he is good person
He would never hurt me
And he said "i will never hurt you and if i ever do , they can cut my head off"
His language is so drama so "romantic" that i feel why im falling everytime
He sounds like a shakespearean character who loves you passionatelly... in his words
His action DO NOT MATCH
He’s a manipulator girl, he tells you everything you want to hear in order to keep you around or so that you won’t see him for what he really is. There is a reason he can’t keep a girlfriend and he’s so scared of his neighbors even see you upset. I would leave him.
But he was crying when he said it
He sounds so honest
Is he a liar about loving me?
Why he wants me around then
When he knows his actions hurt me
If you have tiktok, go look up “guy throws tantrum over cheating”. You will see tons of videos of men crying, throwing temper tantrums. I’m not saying at all your boyfriend is cheating, I am just showing you examples of how manipulative men can be, and all the bullshit they will do. It’s crazy, but it happens all the time, go see for yourself.
He wants you around because right now you are the only woman willing to deal with him. He has found you, someone who will keep tolerating his bs, keep being his girlfriend and giving him sex, he has found that with you. Once you leave, he will leech from another gullible, shy woman.
Damn... how you know im shy
You probably right
Im gonna check tiktok
Thanks you
He was lusting for nearly 2 years for me you know
He wanted me for 2 years... i rejected him so many times
I figured you were shy because unfortunately it’s always the quiet, shy women that men like him have the easiest time manipulating. For example, you probably don’t really stand up for yourself if there’s an issue with him and and when you do it’s worth crying over because of the confrontation you hate. You have a big heart, so you think you can love him into changing when you can’t, he has to wanna be better but how can he do that when he doesn’t see an issue? In his eyes, your reaction to his problems is you overreacting or being emotional and that’s so fucking manipulative and gaslighting of him. He takes no accountability. I understand he was chasing and wanting you for a long time, but now that he’s done the work to get you and finally got you, he’s done working. He’s done pretending to be whatever version of himself he thought you would like most, and now you are seeing his true colors. Men and women do this alllll the time, every day. It’s hard for you to understand because you would never do this to someone, but not everyone has the same heart or mind that you do.
The tiktok videos are definitely eye opening! It’s crazy to see how these men will throw tantrums when they are the ones wrong, but it happens so much.