I told this guy I wanted friends with benefits but now im catching feels💀?

[Anonymous]

Okay. I was hesitant on even making this post but here it goes. So i met this guy on tinder. I told him I was looking for a friends with benefits type thing (I definitely am/was) he has a great personality and we click really well (both in and out of the bedroom). His bio said he was looking for short term open to long term same with mine. So I guess my question is, how do I hint that I’m interested in more? I’m not in a rush by any means, I just want to make sure I’m sending the right message. Also, what are certain things from him I can look out for? I feel like I’ve noticed something’s but I’m kind of oblivious ugh.

[laly520]

u will waste ur time
its very rare for friends with benefits type of relationship to turn into serious long term relationship especially if it started n was based on sex only
lot of guys lose interest in girl they r friends with benefits with thus they stop seeing her as girlfriend/wife material n once they r satisfied with the sex she giving they would move on to the next girl to break routine cuz friends with benefits relationships doesn't last long in most cases
I would recommend that u make it clear since start n tell him what u were telling us, communicate with him n talk it out, ofc if u r sure of what u said
otherwise dont waste ur time having feelings for a mere friends with benefits

[Asker]

That’s what I’m afraid of. But it’s weird. Like he acts like he cares about me? Like wants to know about my parents, personal life etc.

[laly520]

dont fall for their tricks n games

[Billlewis]

Then just gradually turn your attention on developing a longer term relationship.

[Asker]

Okay, so how should I go about that? I’ve been in 2 relationships 1 guy 1 girl. I just don’t want to be too much. Like I don’t want to come on too strong I guess, cause no one likes that🤷🏼‍♀️ do you think it would be okay to ask him out somewhere? Before we met we planned to go out but then he got hurt and couldn’t make it. He was definitely down, but it just didn’t work out like that.

[Billlewis]

Yes, ma'am, I just started following you, and if you'd like to either follow me or try messaging me, I'd love to discuss this with you.

[Billlewis]

And you don't have to worry; I won't bombard you with messages 🤣

[Asker]

It won’t let me message you lol. This is my first post so that may be why

[Billlewis]

Then just follow me, and then I'll be able to message you.

[Avicenna]

Has he given you any indication that he wants anything other than sex from you?

[Asker]

See this is my first time actually *just* hooking up with someone. So I don’t know what is normal (if that makes sense) we have talked about some deeper stuff and he made sure I knew I was the only girl that’s come over (I didn’t ask or even think about it). I don't know if that means anything.

[Billlewis]

Yes, ma'am, that does make sense.

[Avicenna]

Yeah, I don't see anything from that which makes me think he wants anything but sex

[spartan55]

Once you give it up for free the chance for the relationship upgrade is gone.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

You can't expect serious relationships from men or people in general on Tinder so don't expect him to commit to you.

[Danny_dan92]

Well that’s too bad

[In_Trance]

Gotta pay to play