I guess he's depressed?

[Anonymous]

The guy I talk to on an app had told me "Something happens to me all the time". So we used to talk every day but now he has not been texting me for some days. I texted him a message yesterday but he didn't read and not online. He's not been entering the app since we talked last time. But my message is delivered to him. He didn't delete the app. He just doesn't enter. Maybe he's depressed again... Isn't it hard to talk someone who is constantly depressed?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh sis that does sound like possible depression or something going on mentally with him. Some signs that point to it:

- Saying "something happens to me all the time" hints at ongoing mood issues or mental health struggles.

- Suddenly going from talking daily to dropping off communication completely is a red flag.

- Not even logging into the app to read messages shows he's really withdrawn right now.

- If he's been depressed before, it's common for episodes to come and go.

Dealing with someone who struggles with depression long-term can definitely be hard. A few things you could try:

- Give him space but let him know you're there if he wants to talk when he's ready. No pressure.

- Check in every so often but don't overmessage if he's non-responsive

- Suggest professional help if his depression is really bad

- Take care of your own mental health too - it can be draining

Ultimately he may need to work on managing his depression before being able to be there for you properly. Hopefully he'll bounce back soon sis! You're doing the right thing by being supportive.

[Asker]

Oh thank u so much!! I'll just wait.. but it's really hard to continue with someone like this🙄 cuz i'm not like him. For example, I was laughing a lot but he didn't laugh a lot

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, yeah I get how that would be tough too. It's not easy dealing with someone who's constantly down in the dumps when you're more of an upbeat, positive person. But try not to take it personally that he's not laughing and having fun like you are - depression really sucks the joy out of life sometimes.

Maybe you could just be patient with him for now since he's going through a rough patch. But also don't feel bad about needing your own breaks from it too, ya know? Like it's okay to go do your own thing with friends who can have fun with you without bringing you down. And he probably wouldn't want you to be miserable just cuz he is.

I'd say keep checking in on him when you can to let him know you're there, but don't feel like you have to constantly try and cheer him up if that's draining for you too. Compromise is important - you support him through this, but also make sure you're taking care of your own mental health. Maybe have an honest talk and see if you can both understand where the other is coming from. Depression is super hard, but relationships take work from both sides. I'm sure if you communicate how you're feeling too, he'd want you to be happy as well. Just my two cents - you gotta look out for #1 too!

[shafiya]

That’s really kind of you to think that way, but it could also be a scenario that he got someone else a girl probably and he doesn’t want to come on the app as he doesn’t want to face you plus if his girl could find out and break up or maybe it just he Doesn’t want to.

[laly520]

yes hard n challenging n its possible it will drain ur energy

in general not for everyone if his depression is intense

[Asker]

I'm a positive person. But he's not positive🙄 for example, I was laughing continually but he doesn't laugh a lot

[Asker]

I'm thinking if he didn't wanna talk to me, he would block me or delete the app. But i saw my message is delivered to him...

[laly520]

give him space
if its meant to be he will text u back on his own
otherwise dont bother, uve done ur part n sent him a text already so rest up to him

[Asker]

You are right. I'm thinking so too. If I send a message again, I will be bothered him. If he wants, he will reply me🙄