I have made some noticeable approaches to tell him that I am interested in him but he gives me mixed signals. One day is all lovey but randomly he is distant. But it is true that he might be hesitating; he mentioned about how he loved this girl a couple of years ago but she broke up with him and he struggles with mental health and visits a psychologist. Yet he truly makes me happy and I hope I do the same for him. It's just that he doesn't text me often and sometimes mid conversation he looks like he wants to leave. I don't want to mess up our friendship by confessing my feelings and let's say he doesn't feel the same about me. I have also noticed that when he is drunk/high he tends to ignore me more than when he is sober. He is all goofy with me and if we cross paths, he always interacts with me. I had a gut feeling that he is interested in me too but when he had an opportunity to kiss me he didn;t but instead we kissed cheeks. But I do feel we have gotten closer.
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Does he like me, what am I to him?
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Umm it sounds like it's probably kinda complicated with this guy. A few things that stand out to me:
- The fact that he's mentioned past struggles with relationships and mental health indicates there may be some baggage there making him hesitant to fully open up again.
- The mixed signals of being lovey one day then distant the next is confusing. Sounds like he might really like you but also gets in his own head sometimes.
- If he tends to ignore you more when drunk/high that could be a defense mechanism on his part to avoid feelings when vulnerable. Or he may get self-conscious.
- The cheek kiss instead of a real kiss when he had the chance suggests he's holding back from fully committing yet.
It's tricky because you obviously like him but don't want to ruin the friendship either by confessing. My advice would be to continue showing your interest, but also give him space when he seems distant so he doesn't feel pressured. Let him set the pace for physical affection too. Beyond that, all you can do is be honest about your feelings if he directly asks where you stand someday. But otherwise, continue enjoying each other's company and see if he opens up more over time. There seems to be a care and connection there, so it may just take patience as he works through his own stuff. I hope things work out for you both!
If it's not crystal clear that he's into you... then he most likely isn't. Men are usually easy to read when expressing interest in someone. Plus he has unresolved issues, not healthy for building a strong relationship. Sadly sometimes we like people but feelings aren't mutual. It takes two to tango. You deserve to be with someone you don't have to chase after. Forget about this guy already... the hurt of being involved with him romantically will be much greater than the hurt of getting over this crush
Thank you. I needed this I guess <3
Glad I could help.