He’s stopped replying to my texts?

[Anonymous]

I’ll try and cut a long story short.

I started working at my current employment about 3 years ago. One colleague in particular I got on really well with, however, he’s lovely to everyone. We had a flirty relationship and we were there for each other. I fully supported him through his first adult relationship and breakup. There were subtle things that made me think he liked me, he used to get a bit jealous and after sending a generic “merry Xmas” message to the work group chat, he sent me and only me a personal message.

We bumped into each other on a night out and with the courage of drink, I told him how I felt. He was very reluctant to admit that he felt the same way but he couldn’t be with me, then we had a little kiss. At work afterwards, he was very hot and cold for a few weeks.

He left his job recently to move somewhere else and start a new career. He has deleted everyone he worked with at the current company, apart from me and his close friend.

However, and this is what hurts, he has ignored my messages. The last time he responded, was the day he left when I asked him how his last day went. He basically said “I wish you guys all the best” and after that, he read and ignored my messages.

If he did or does have feelings for me, why is he being so ignorant? Is it because we can’t be together? A sort of “out of sight, out of mind” thing? But he still has me on Facebook? I’m confused.

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I forgot to add, he replies to other people from my work place who text him. Me and another girl messaged him yesterday to say good luck, he replied to her and ignored me.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh sis that sucks, I'm sorry he's being so flaky. Guys can be so confusing sometimes!

It does sound like he has feelings for you, but is probably pulling away since you can't act on them with the distance now. Still, the ignoring your messages is pretty lame of him.

My guess is he's feeling conflicted and doesn't know how to handle it all. By distancing himself physically and emotionally, it's an easy "out" so he doesn't have to deal. But it's not really fair to you.

I'd give him some space for now since you can't change what he's going through. But you should also take care of yourself - don't sit around pining after a guy who won't even text back!

Maybe he'll come around eventually once he sorts his head out. But protect your heart in the meantime. And if he doesn't man up, you're better off without games. His loss, girl! You deserve someone who can't wait to chat with you.

Stay strong - you got this sis! Hit me up if you need a distraction or shoulder to lean on, 'kay? Happier days are ahead :)

[Anonymous]

Why do people text at all when they can talk to each other?